BEACH BABE GOALS Slay your vacay in fun, fresh prints and makeoutproof tints! THROW T CHILLESTHE POOL PA EVER!RTY TROPIC LIKE IT’S HOT Transform your space into a tropical getaway I SAW THE SIGN Is this generation TOO obsessed with astrology? Her Lustrous Summer Starts Now Contents APRIL 2018 ✱ On the Cover 18 NADINE LUSTRE This is not a drill: Our IG queen is releasing her very own makeup line. 26 BEACH BABE GOALS Slay all day under the sun. 74 I SAW THE SIGN 18 Into the gloss Why more and more people are turning to astrology for answers. 80 IS YOUR #MCM RUINING YOUR LOVE LIFE? It’s time to take a good hard look at your celebrity loves. 100 THROW THE CHILLEST POOL PARTY EVER! An easy-peasy spread you can prep in no time. 104 TROPIC LIKE IT’S HOT A tropical getaway in your own home. ✱ Know 10 15 THINGS TO DO (PHOTO) DOOKIE DUCAY. (TOP AND PANTS) SHOP LCP. (EARRINGS AND SHOES) ALDO. This month’s must-tries. 12 COSMO RADAR Watch as your favorites make the jump from page to screen. 15 IT’S LIT Summer reads to stash in your beach tote. 16 COSMO BAE An honest conversation with Milo Ventimiglia from Tis Is Us. 17 CONFESSIONS Death by word vomit. ✱ Wear 32 SHOPPING CART No baggage allowance? These beach essentials are all you need to pack. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 3 Contents 100 25 Rock the boat Sea through 108 Golden girl 72 WHY BEING IMPERFECT Killer looks that will make heads turn. IS THE NEW PERFECT To borrow from our cover girl’s wise words, come on, guys—it’s 2018. 42 POOL PARTY Unleash your inner hubadera. ✱ Bloom 50 TAKE A TINT Meet your lips’ new best friend. 52 HANDY MAKEUP HACKS No set of brushes? No problem. 54 BEAUTY QUICKIES 56 GET READY WITH ME A beauty routine as easy as Sunday morning. 58 BEAUTY NOTES DIY skills tried and tested by Cosmo girls. 60 GOLDEN HOUR Bianca Umali ﬁnds her light. ✱ Feel 68 CAN CREATIVITY MAKE YOU HAPPIER? A deep dive into our artistic side. ✱ Love 83 HOW WE MAKE IT WORK Blogger Camie Juan on moving to New York with her man. 84 TO MOAN OR NOT TO MOAN? Why it’s no good to fake it till he makes it. 86 MODERN ROMANCE What to keep in mind when dating a foreigner. ✱ Work 87 HOW TO KEEP IT PROFESH IN A TMI WORLD The boundaries you need to establish at work. 90 SHE STARTED IT The empowering story of MMI big boss Rhiza Pascua. 92 ON THE JOB Why it’s important to build your brand online and of. 4 &260232/,7$1$35,/ ✱ Move 94 BODY LOVE When your family is your biggest body shamer. 96 HEALTH BUZZ It’s time to take a look at the health problems you tend to ignore. 98 HEALTHY BITES When French cooking meets Filipino ingredients. ✱ Play 102 FOOD PORN Go on a yummy, feed-friendly food crawl. ✱ Everything Else 105 SHOPPING DIRECTORY 106 ASTROLOGER 108 GOOD VIBES TO GO Nothing but respeto for actress Chai Fonacier. (PHOTOS) JEREMY WESTBROOK/STUDIO D, ERWIN CANLAS, PATRICK MARTIRES. 36 SOME LIKE IT HOT A NOTE FROM THE EDITOR Sunnies state of mind. When life gives you lemons, pull a Queen Bey and make some lemonade. If there’s Be Little Miss Sunshine in these pumps from Stradivarius. 6 Marla Miniano, Editor in Chief Behind the scenes: Nadine touches up in between takes at our super chill cover shoot at Cove Manila. A total summer skin savior! (PHOTOS) DAIRY DARIL AG, DOOKIE DUCAY, ISTOCK, COURTESY OF FE ATURED BR ANDS. (MAKEUP) JOAN TEOTICO USING NARS COSME TICS. A shot of hydration for your parched skin. one thing the summer represents, it’s endless possibilities. The warm months stretch ahead, drenched in the golden promise of adventure— and tinged with the assurance that there are new beginnings rising up all around you. Whatever challenges you went through or mistakes you made or heartbreaks you had to patiently endure earlier this year, summer is the best season to put all of that behind you and start fresh. Summer is often the time for reinvention, whether you’re debuting a new ‘do (even if it just entails cutting your own bangs—find out how on page 58), or changing up your style (lots of cool ideas from page 25 onwards), or taking a brave chance on love (get inspired when you read about how lifestyle blogger Camie Juan took a leap of faith on page 83). This means it’s also the perfect opportunity to put all your free time to good use and take a nice hard look at the life you lead now versus the life you spend your days dreaming about. Are your creative pursuits honestly giving you joy (page 68)? Is there room to make your relationships with the people close to you just a little bit healthier, a little bit more harmonious (page 94)? And are you ready to build something you truly believe in, empowered by your desire to make a difference, even if the odds seem to be against you (page 90)? Whatever your summer do-over is, we hope it leads you back to your happiest, most fulfilled self. Happy April, Cosmo Girls! 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(3+272'$,5<'$5,/ $*^&2&. 7$,/35(3$5 $7,21$1'5(&,3(52<&(38$2) 67 </,1*67(3+(1'(-(686 EDITOR, GERMANY: Anja Delastik EDITOR, HONG KONG: Ruqiyah Law Kam (TEXT AND ART) STEPHEN DE JESUS (PHOTOS) CAPITOL RECORDS. H O T , F R E S H , A N D R I G H T - T H I S - M I N U T E THE REINVENTION While many artists have tried to constantly change their image, Katy Perry’s transformation from Christian rock artist to the legendary pop superstar she is today is undoubtedly the most successful reinvention of all time: from feisty Lolita in her debut album, to purple-haired Cali gurl with five #1 songs in a single record—a feat that cemented her superstar status. We also witnessed her roar at the Superbowl in 2015, and then as she chopped her hair off and went platinum blonde to swish into the latest era. So even if she changes hair color like a girl changes clothes, this modern day icon’s longevity is undeniable, and you can bet she’ll be serving look after look and unforgettable performances for the years to come. 9 9 over when it’s still too early for tequila. Pen, P360, Typo 1 TAKE Coachella to work with this bag. Bag, P1,995, Zara 15 8. LET your wine glass speak for you. Wine glass, P520, Charming Charlie 7. PUMP UP every outfit with a pair of eyecatching shoes. Pumps, P6,130, Katy Perry Collections 6 2. GET PLAYFUL with your notes. 12-pack neon pencils, P800, Typo THINGS TO DO THIS MONTH 3. BREATHE a bit better with essential oils for anything and everything you’re feeling. Diffuser, InnoGear, P1,038, amazon.com ADD A POP OF COLOR to your look with an accessory that’s the opposite of irr-elephant. Pouch, P625, Charming Charlie 5. SIP from a berry cute mug. Mug, P700, Typo 10 4 SWISH, SWISH with thick and luxurious lips. Katy Kat Gloss in Kitty Karma, P400, Covergirl (TE X T) STEPHEN DE JESUS & GABY IGNACIO. (PHOTOS) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BR ANDS. LET this pen tide you 10 GET YOUR SUPERHEROOBSESSED GANG TOGETHER for the latest installment from the Marvel universe, Avengers: Infinity War, out April 25, as the Avengers and the Guardians of the Galaxy join forces to stop Thanos from collecting the Infinity Stones. 12. BEAR WITNESS 13. DANCE to Kylie to an eye-popping visual masterpiece as Katy Perry brings Witness: The Tour to Manila on April 2 at the SM Mall of Asia Arena. 11. NEVER GO HANGRY again with the country’s first breakfast biscuit, belVita. It’s healthful (made with oats, whole grains, and contains less than 100 cals a pack!), delicious (chocolate for breakfast?!), and perfect for when you’re on the go, especially when paired with a piece of fruit and some milk. belVita is available in leading supermarkets nationwide. 14.. STAY IN TOUCH with your nearest and dearest and support local talent when you download Kumu, the newest call and messaging app. We love that even their stickers are extra Pinoy— taho shouting “taho!” anyone? Kumu is available for free in the Apple Store and Google Play. Minogue’s much-awaited comeback with her 14th studio album, Golden, which comes out April 6. 15 COP COOL SUNGLASSES from i2i New York’s DJP Collection, designed by Daniel Padilla. Inspired by the heartthrob’s favorite musicians and Hollywood idols, such as Johnny Depp, Robert Downey Jr., and John Lennon, every piece is priced between P370 and P460. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 11 COSMO RADAR CULT READ TO BIG SCREEN Get excited for these beloved titles making their silver screen debut in the next few months. arlier this year, we were held captive by Elio and Oliver’s dreamy summer URPDQFHLQ¶V,WDO\LQ the film Call Me By Your Name. When it came time to say “later,” there was a pleasant surprise waiting for us as the credits rolled and we began Googling every little thing about the movie. It was far from a secret, but the thing about Call Me By Your Name was that the average viewer wasn’t aware of the Andre Aciman novel it was based on. So instead of the book vs. film debate that came with most adaptations, Aciman’s novel became a lovely companion that added depth to the viewing experience, that let Elio and Oliver linger just a little bit longer. Not every book-to-film adaptation will exist in such sweet harmony, but we have high hopes for these titles hitting screens in the next few months. E 12 &260232/,7$1$35,/ LOVE, SIMON BASED ON: Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli. THE CAST: Nick Robinson from Jurassic World, Katherine Langford from 13 Reasons Why, Jennifer Garner, Josh Duhamel. IN A NUTSHELL: Seventeen-year-old Simon has two secrets being used against him by a classmate-turned-blackmailer: 1) he’s gay, and 2) he’s falling for an anonymous online correspondent who goes to his school as well. With director Greg Berlanti (Dawson’s Creek, The Flash, Supergirl), writers Isaac Aptaker and Elizabeth Berger (This Is Us), and producers Wyck Godfrey and Marty Bowen (The Fault in Our Stars), you can bet that Albertalli’s critically acclaimed debut novel is in good hands. YOU’LL LOVE IT IF: You agree with Simon’s sentiments that it doesn’t seem fair “that only gay people have to come out… Why is straight the default?” DON’T WATCH IT IF: You have no love for YA stories. (Y tho?) HITS CINEMAS: May 9. N O M I S , E V O L FANTASTIC BEASTS: THE CRIMES OF GRINDELWALD BASED ON: Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them by J.K. Rowling. THE CAST: Eddie Redmayne, Johnny Depp, Jude Law, Ezra Miller. IN A NUTSHELL: What started as a Hogwarts textbook mentioned in the Harry Potter series and made available to Muggles as a thin paperback is now a trilogy in the making. The sequel picks up as dark wizard Gellert Grindelwald (Johnny Depp) escapes the authorities to rule over Muggle-kind with an army of pureblood wizards. Newt Scamander (Eddie Redmayne), the Magizoologist who would later pen Fantastic Beasts, is enlisted by Albus Dumbledore (Jude Law) to help put a stop to Grindelwald’s wicked plans. YOU’LL LOVE IT IF: You’re a Potterhead through and through. DON’T WATCH IT IF: You can’t stand Depp’s icy blonde look as Grindelwald (or the domestic abuse allegations made against him by ex-wife Amber Heard, which she later dismissed…) HITS CINEMAS: November 16. ( T E X T ) D YA N Z A R Z UE L A , S OP HIE G ODD A RD. (P HOTO S) I S TO CK , (FA N TA S T IC BE A S T S) S CHOL A S T IC, (M A R Y P OP P IN S , S IMON V S . T HE HOMO S A P IE N S A GE ND A ) H A RP E R C OL L IN S , ( T HE NE W MU TA N T S) M A R V E L . : S T S A E B IC T S A T N FA THE CRIMES LODF GRINDELWA MARY POPPINS RETURNS BASED ON: The Mary Poppins children’s books by P.L. Travers. THE CAST: Emily Blunt, Lin-Manuel Miranda, Meryl Streep, Ben Whishaw. IN A NUTSHELL: Fifty four years after the classic Julie Andrews musical, Mary Poppins returns to charm the socks off a whole new generation. Set in ‘30s London, which is the time period featured in the books, the sequel follows siblings Michael and Jane, now all grown up. After Michael suffers a sudden, painful loss, Mary Poppins (Emily Blunt taking on Julie Andrews’s role) returns with lamplighter Jack (Hamilton genius Lin-Manuel Miranda) and her cousin Topsy (none other than Meryl Streep). YOU’LL LOVE IT IF: You’re up for a supercalifragilisticexpialidocious adventure. DON’T WATCH IT IF: You think all the spoonfuls of sugar in the world won’t help a musical go down. HITS CINEMAS: December 25. W E N E TH NTS MUTA MARY P RETURONPPINS S YOU’LL HAVE TO WAIT FOR THESE THE NEW MUTANTS BASED ON: The New Mutants comic book series created by Chris Claremont. THE CAST: Maisie Williams from Game of Thrones, Charlie Heaton from Stranger Things, Henry Zaga from 13 Reasons Why. IN A NUTSHELL: Everything feels heightened when you’re a teenager, even more so when you’re a mutant exploring (and being exploited because of) your superpowers. In the Marvel comic book series, the New Mutants are a group of teens in training at Xavier’s School for Gifted Youngsters, but the film adaptation seems to have them locked up in a creepy asylum. YOU’LL LOVE IT IF: You think it’s high time for a horror movie set in the X-Men ‘verse. DON’T WATCH IT IF: You consider spandex suits a non-negotiable in superhero movies. HITS CINEMAS: February 2019. The film rights have been bought, but there’s no release date yet… LUCKIEST GIRL ALIVE by Jessica Knoll Ani is a 28-year-old working at a women’s magazine (Knoll is a former US Cosmopolitan staffer), who hides a dark trauma from her past. PRIMATES OF PARK AVENUE by Wednesday Martin Martin’s controversial memoir lays bare the social mores she encountered when thrown among New York’s upper class. CATHERINE THE GREAT & POTEMKIN: THE IMPERIAL LOVE AFFAIR by Simon Sebag Montefiore The best-selling history tome focuses on the notorious Russian empress’s love life. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 13 COSMO RADAR ONE PAGE AT A TIME With his wicked sense of humor and deeply personal stories, Adam J. Kurtz has built and inspired a loyal following around the world. Here, the artist and author of Things Are What You Make of Them: Life Advice for Creatives shares a few words of wisdom that will resonate with you, no matter the industry you’re in. WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUR WORK IS SUCH AN INSPIRATION TO PEOPLE AROUND THE WORLD. WHO DO YOU FREELANCERS? You have more freedom and flexibility, which TURN TO WHEN YOU’RE THE ONE FEELING can be very cool. But you’re not just your UNINSPIRED? YOU HAVE SUCH A DISTINCT VOICE: CHEEKY, EMPOWERING, ZERO BS. The thing is, we already know our authentic voice—it’s the voice we use when we talk to our friends. What happens is that a lot of people sit down, take out a fancy notebook and pen, and be like, I’m writing now. Just write how you would talk to your friends. The work comes in terms of fine-tuning your voice. When I talk to my friends, it’s actually a little bit more depressive. But in the book Things Are What You Make of Them, I try to say things that are positive but not in a cheesy way. Positive, but still myself. There’s a little bit of course correction. 14 &260232/,7$1$35,/ own boss—you’re your own employee. You still have to treat it as a job. Wake up in the morning, and put on pants, put on socks, put on shoes. Follow a schedule, and take a day off when you need to. You have to hold yourself accountable for your own bullshit, but you also have to allow yourself to pull some bullshit. HOW DO YOU COPE WITH IMPOSTER SYNDROME? Everybody has that; you’ll always wonder if you’re good enough. The thing is, you never know what you can do right up until you actually do it. Imposter syndrome never goes away, but it can be a good thing too—it means that you’re still humble. I hope to never lose my humility. I’m confident about some things now that I wasn’t before, but I’m still scared of most things. Feeling that you’re not good enough also means that you have an objective eye that recognizes beauty and talent in the world. It means you’ll see things that you consider better, which will push you to do better. It also means you have good taste, so pat yourself on the back, congratulations. Just keep going. Things Are What You Make of Them: Life Advice for Creatives is available at National Book Store. (TE X T) DYAN Z ARZUEL A. (PHOTOS) COURTESY OF ADAM J. KURTZ /NATIONAL BOOK STORE. There’s all this pressure at the beginning of a new year, and this year had me really freaking out. My way of getting through that was by talking to artist friends. It’s so easy to be hard on yourself and think that all your friends are doing amazing. So just talk to them, and they will confess that they’re also stressed out. That kind of advice is helpful to me. Just like in my books, I’m not trying to present myself as an expert. I don’t always trust the expert. I just want to talk to real people, and I want them to be honest and to commiserate with me. Like, tell me about your shit too. Now you got me, now I’m listening, let’s talk about the good stuff. IT’S LIT! CALL ME BY YOUR NAME By André Aciman A tender ‘80s romance with a strange premise: 17-year-old Elio meets 24-year-old Jewish scholar Oliver, who comes to their Italian summer home as his father’s new research assistant. Amidst quiet rivers and lush greenery, the pair discover one another and themselves. STATUS ANXIETY (TE X T) CHANDR A PEPINO. (PHOTO) LOUIE AGUINALDO. (ST YLING) STEPHEN DE JESUS. By Alain de Botton Too often we find ourselves worried about how the outside world perceives us, when all that should really matter is our happiness. The School of Life founder writes about the five things that beleaguer humanity, as well as the five things that give life its true meaning. DEEP DIVE Let these summer page-turners steal you away for an afternoon. THE UNBEARABLE LIGHTNESS OF BEING By Milan Kundera This 1984 classic is worth a revisit if only for its characters: a young woman, in love with a womanizer; one of his mistresses and her ever-faithful lover; a smiling dog. Picturing ‘60s Czechoslovakia might be a stretch for the reader’s imagination, but the universal theme of love isn’t. HERE WE ARE NOW By Jasmine Warga Musician Tal Abdallat doesn’t know much about her estranged father— that is, until she finds a box of letters from indie rock star Julian Oliver. Could this be the missing piece she’s been looking for all along? All titles available at National Book Store. 15 We’ll never let go, Jack. The Pearson patriarch may have met his end on This Is Us, but he will live forever in our hearts— and on the flashback-heavy show. BOTTOMS UP “When we got together as a cast to watch the first episode of This Is Us, it was a surprise to me that you see my ass before you see my face. I’m flattered, but I think it’s had its moment.” “It was 30 seconds of heaven. No—it’s funny, when you’re younger, you’re afraid to say or do the wrong thing. When you’re older and new things happen— and they do…all the time—you’re inspired by it.” DUDE BRAIN “I didn’t understand the complexity of women until I got older. Hopefully, women get that we’re fucking knuckleheads. We do things ass-backward all the time. You have to be a little patient with us.” FAN FRENZY “People can say some aggressive stuff. I’m shocked at how graphically people ask about costars I’ve been intimate with on camera. But I appreciate when someone walks up to me. I’m a fan of people too! It’s not one-sided.” 16 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (TE X T) R ACHEL MOSELE Y. (PHOTO) ERIC R AY DAVIDSON. (MAKEUP) JO BAKER AT FORWARD ARTISTS USING E X1 COSME TICS. (HAIR) CHRIS MCMILL AN FOR LIVING PROOF AT SOLO ARTISTS. THE FIRST TIME Because even our own mouths can betray us CONFESSIONS “My boyfriend took me to meet his parents for the first time. When his dad asked when we started dating, I said, ‘In France,’ while he said, ‘A few months ago.’ We had actually met during a junior term abroad in Paris last year, but he didn’t want his conservative mom and dad to know that their son had been dating without their supervision. He got into some trouble, but his parents still like me...I think.” “The final oral exams at my university are held individually. When my exam was over, my professor congratulated me for doing well. In my nervousness, I replied, ‘Good thing this means I’ll never see you again, Sir!’ He was taken aback at first, but he laughed and sent me on my way. I was mortified!” — JULIANA, 20 “I was fighting with my sister one day, and she said something hurtful about my boyfriend. I was so angry that I blurted out, ‘At least I still have one!’ She had just broken up with her own boyfriend, so she burst into tears right there. We made up by cuddling on the couch with ice cream.” “We all have a tita who likes to point out how much weight we’ve gained. That happened to me at a Christmas reunion: ‘Anak, you’re looking bigger!’ My younger brother, who is only eight, defended me and said ‘You too, tita!’ Everyone at the reunion stopped what they were doing out of shock!” —PRECIOUS, 24 “Remember in Mean Girls when Cady meant to say ‘great’ and ‘cool’ and ended up saying ‘grool’? Well, I meant to say ‘Thank you’ and ‘It’s okay’ and ended up saying ‘It’s thank’ to the teller while I was paying for my phone bill.” —MEG, 22 “My Uber driver said ‘Okay ka lang diyan, babe?’ and I replied, ‘Okay naman po.’ It turns out he was talking to his wife on the phone! The worst part? I was in an UberPool!” —DINA, 23 BLURT-O-ME TER (TE X T) COMPILED BY CHANDR A PEPINO. (PHOTO) ISTOCK. —NADINE, 23 MAYBE THE Y DIDN’T HE AR THAT WELL, THAT WA S AWK WARD *CRICKE TS* KMN, KMN, KMN MOVING TO TIMBUK TU BL ACK HOLE, SWALLOW ME —CHRISSY, 21 &260232/,7$1$35,/ 17 ON THE COVER: BODYSUIT, FOLDED AND HUNG. EARRINGS, JJ JIAO. THIS PAGE: TOP AND SHORTS, ASSIE RAY. EARRINGS, JJ JIAO. Art direction: Paula Pangan. Makeup: Jelly Eugenio, assisted by Florence Torreto. Hair: Paul Nebres, assisted by Pao Joyner. Styling: Myrrh Lao To, assisted by Carvey Samonte and Zia Dela Rosa. Special thanks: Cheska Descalzo and Patrick Tolentino of Okada Manila, Sara Alvarez of Geiser Maclang. 18 S Nadine Lustre is throwing a summer party—and everyone’s invited. On the menu: an array of beach-to-bar looks and her trademark candor on tap. BY BIANCA MASCENON PHOTOGRAPHY BY DOOKIE DUCAY SHOT ON LOCATION AT COVE MANILA 19 I t’s about time we all gave her credit for it, because this month’s cover girl knows exactly what she’s doing. By simply being herself, Nadine Lustre has achieved something most of her contemporaries can only dream of coming close to: she’s successfully married her name with an aesthetic—one with the perfect mix of je ne sais quoi and undeniable distinction. “Very Nadine” is an apt description for every single thing she puts out, be it an Instagram post, a grand concert, or in the case of her latest creative venture, a makeup line in partnership with BYS. The Lustrous Collection, dripping in gold and adorned with tropical ﬂorals, is just as aesthetically pleasing as it is powerful. Waterproof, highly pigmented, and expertly curated, every piece in the collection will last you from dawn to dusk to after-hours, and looks equally pretty on Nadine, on you, and on your vanity table. Party favors, please? HOW DID YOU KNOW THAT BYS WAS THE PERFECT PARTNER FOR YOUR BEAUTY INDUSTRY DEBUT? During our ﬁrst meeting, BYS introduced me to all their products and presented their list of endorsers to me. My 20 &260232/,7$1$35,/ friend, Kiana [Valenciano], is also an endorser. I told her that BYS wanted to collaborate with me for this makeup line. She said, “Yeah, girl, do it! BYS is amazing. They have everything!” WHAT WAS THE PROCESS OF CREATING LUSTROUS LIKE? WHAT WERE YOUR ROLES IN THE PARTNERSHIP? I created a mood board for the collection, then we discussed shades, the items I wanted to be part of the collection, and product names. We wanted to formulate makeup that I would personally want to use. I made sure that each product would ﬁt my standards. For the packaging, I tapped my friend, Soleil Ignacio, to do the illustrations. I’m a fan of her work and she knows what I like. She gets my personality, and she was able to put all of that into the packaging. WERE THERE SPECIFIC THINGS YOU WANTED FOR THE LINE? WHAT WERE THE FEATURES YOU KNEW YOU WEREN’T GOING TO COMPROMISE? This is the summer collection, so I wanted the products to be longlasting and waterproof. One of my problems when I go to the beach is that my eyebrows aren’t deﬁned without product. That’s always my issue, or my “IT’S IMPORTANT TO ME THAT I HELP ALL THE GIRLS WHO LOOK UP TO ME FEEL A LITTLE BIT MORE CONFIDENT.” mascara’s always smearing when I sweat, or I look pale in photos. Even when I’m at the beach, I still have to ﬁx up. I know that when a lot of girls go to the beach, they think, “Oh no, I’m gonna lose my eyeliner!” Or their kilay, or whatever. So I wanted this collection to be able to help them with that. WHAT WERE YOUR THOUGHTS WHEN YOU FIRST TRIED THE PRODUCTS? I ﬁrst got to try them at a shoot with my makeup artist, Jelly [Eugenio]. He loves them! They’re Jelly-approved, and that’s important! That’s how I know we created something really good. WHY DID YOU CHOOSE TO LAUNCH THESE SPECIFIC PRODUCTS FOR YOUR FIRST COLLECTION? I didn’t include a base in this collection because when I’m on holiday, I just really want to give my skin some space to breathe. When you’re at the beach with a glowing tan, you wouldn’t want to cover it up. Lipstick tends to feel too thick and sticky for the beach. The lip tint isn’t like that and won’t stick to straws when you drink your piña colada or buko juice. You can use the same product to add color to your cheeks. It stays on because it’s not powder based, so it won’t just melt of your face. The eyeliners and eye shadow palettes are really for play. They’re both highly pigmented, so you don’t have to put a lot—one swipe and you’re good to go. They’re perfect for nights out at the beach when you just want to be a bit playful with your look but still look fresh and clean. WHAT ARE YOU MOST EXCITED ABOUT, NOW THAT YOU’RE ABOUT TO REVEAL THE COLLECTION TO EVERYBODY? I’m excited for everyone to have their own Lustrous kit and take it to the beach and just be conﬁdent. What I noticed now is that a lot of girls aren’t comfortable in their own skin, and it’s important to me that I help all the girls who look up to me feel a little bit more conﬁdent—in any way I can. I’m not necessarily saying that you should wear makeup to feel conﬁdent. It’s not like that. Makeup is just a tool to enhance the way you look and the way DRESS, YONG DAVALOS. EARRINGS AND NECKLACE, NAMI. 21 TOP AND SHORTS, GEM CO. EARRINGS, NAMI. SHOES, ALDO. 22 &260232/,7$10$5&+ you feel about yourself. It’s like confetti! Like sprinkling confetti on yourself. Makeup isn’t supposed to change how you look completely; it’s supposed to highlight all the best parts of your face and boost your conﬁdence level in the process. It really does make you feel pretty. I had problems with my self-esteem when I was younger, but makeup helped change that. It’s true that whenever you’re wearing makeup and you look at yourself in the mirror, you think “Hey, I look so good.” But at the end of the day, I know that deep down I’m still me. I am beautiful and I’ve learned to accept it. WHAT’S THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU’VE HAD TO LEARN GROWING UP IN THIS INDUSTRY? Acceptance. Because you’re not going to stop looking down on yourself if you don’t accept all the things na ayaw mong tanggapin sa sarili mo, all the things you don’t like. I went through that stage growing up. I had a lot of things I didn’t like about myself, and I’d always feel insecure. Everything follows when there are things you don’t like about yourself. You start doubting yourself and putting yourself down. I remember back when I used to go to VTRs, I would look at the girls lined up and think, they’re all mestiza, they’re all halﬁes, they all look good. We all know the standard here in the Philippines. Everyone likes fair-skinned girls. That’s what’s beautiful for us. When I was a kid, I had the same mentality. I would always wish my skin was white. I would wish I was a halﬁe. I would doubt myself and I would think that I wasn’t pretty enough, that people didn’t like me. When I started accepting my ﬂaws, my fears started to go away. I started believing in myself. I told myself, “You’re not mestiza, but you still look good. You’re still pretty. Everyone likes you.” All that kind of stuf. When you’re a teenager, it’s so easy to break you down because you’re still ﬁguring everything out. I learned that the only way to free myself from worry and doubt is acceptance. Everyone is beautiful. It just depends on how you look at yourself because beauty comes from within. If you think you’re beautiful, everything follows. It’s funny kasi I have a lot of followers who look up to me and keep asking me how I do it. It’s really just accepting everything and being okay with who you are. That’s what the universe gave you, what God gave you. You should be happy and proud with what you have and just work with it. Say you don’t like your hair. Just work around it. You don’t have to stress about anything, just work on it. If you don’t like your body, just go to the gym; if you don’t like your skin, then take care of it—sleep early, have a healthy diet, drink lots of water. There is always a solution to every problem. You just have to look for it. You don’t need to put yourself down because you think you can’t do anything about it. That’s impossible! You can do whatever you want, change whatever you want, as long as you do it to “I’M JUST BEING MYSELF... YOU HAVE TO NOT BE AFRAID TO SHOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE.” improve yourself. Most people just give up. Don’t just give up. Work on it. HOW DID YOU DEVIATE FROM THE USUAL COOKIE-CUTTER IMAGE PEOPLE EXPECT CELEBRITIES TO HAVE? DO YOU THINK SOCIAL MEDIA HELPED YOU SET YOURSELF APART? It’s simple: I’m just being myself. I’m not trying to be anyone else. I believe that everyone’s diferent. It’s just that you have to not be afraid to show who you really are. People look at me diferently because I speak out. I’m unapologetic. That’s really me from the very beginning. If you go and check my old posts on Instagram, I’ve always been me. Always taking photos— ganoon talaga ako. That’s why I’m diferent, that’s why my Instagram is diferent, that’s why people think I’m diferent. I don’t like pretending. I can’t imagine wearing a mask when I’m out with other people and then being this type of person when I’m alone. That’s so hard! It’s tough to be two diferent people. DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO START BUILDING ANYTHING, BE IT A BUSINESS, A BRAND, OR A NAME FOR THEMSELVES? You have to be smart. ‘Di puwede ‘yung susugod ka na lang because you think it’s okay. Do your research, and think about where your hard-earned money is going. I have a lot of friends na naloko na sa business because they were reckless. I have friends na just because nilapitan sila, they think it’s legit. We’re still young. When it comes to business, we’re still starting out. This is the age when we should experiment, but we have to be careful. WHAT’S THE BEST PART ABOUT BEING A #GIRLBOSS? The best part is I get to put all my creative ideas into all the brands I make. I make sure to put myself into whatever I do so that people can really feel and see that it’s a part of me. Our concert, for example, it was like that because of all our ideas. It was really our brainchild. It’s nice to put out stuf that really came from you. 23 COSMO QUIZ Instagram girl crush: My most extra beauty product: Best beauty advice I’ve received: Birthday: The first makeup item I bought for myself was: I never leave home without this in my bag: I have way too many... My signature scent: 24 &260232/,7$1$35,/ My favorite emojis: 3/$<68,7.%<.</,($&&(6625,(6---,$23+27261$',1('22.,('8&$< 352'8&767,//6/28,($*8,1$/'2&/(2#&/(2.,11$0$1(02-,6(02-,3(',$ Nickname: W E L I K E Y O U R S T Y L E — S O S T A R T O W N I N G I T THE COAST IS CLEAR See-through accessories are clearly in this season. (PHOTO) JEREMY WESTBROOK/STUDIO D. (STYLING) RACHEL STICKLEY FOR BERNSTEIN & ANDRIULLI. (BAG) VASIC. (SUNGLASSES) CRAP EYEWEAR. (HEELS) 3.1 PHILLIP LIM. (BRACELETS) LIZZIE FORTUNATO AND ALEXIS BITTAR. The PVC stripe keeps this sunny tote from becoming a black hole of your belongings. Instead of masking your face, these shades give off a peachy sheen. A chunky heel is way more walkable but still looks delicate in minty-fresh plexi. Play peekaboo with sculptural, translucent cuffs. 25 CHEAT SHEET PRESS PRINT Amp up your summer wardrobe with these fun and flirty prints, as worn by Rachel Tee Tyler (@rachelteetyler). Dress, Alice McCall. Turban, Zimmermann. Earrings, Country Road. Top, H&M, P1,490. Earrings, Stradivarius, P595. GO TROPPO Pants, Mango, P2,295. Shoes, Mango, P4,995. 26 &260232/,7$1$35,/ Clutch, Zara, P3,295. Bag, Mango, P1,495. (TE X T) COSMO AU. (ST Y LING) CA SSIE LONGWORTH. (PHOTOS) PAUL SUESSE /BAUER. (H A IR & M A K E U P ) G E O R G I A H U L L / R E L O A D A G E N C Y. ( M O D E L ) R A C H E L T E E T Y L E R / C H I C M A N A G E M E N T. (STILL S ST YLING) HAPPY LOPEZ. (STILL S) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BR ANDS AND Z ALOR A .COM.PH. Dress, H&M, P1,990. Grab some fun tropical florals in off-the-shoulder shapes and ruffles for that beach-to-bar vibe. Dress, Zimmermann. Belt, Sportsgirl. Shoes, Prettylittlething. Hat, Lack of Color. Top, H&M, P1,690. Top, H&M, P1,190. Dress, Zara, P1,895. Skirt, Mango, P2,295. Wedges, Primadonna, P1,899.95. Vertical striped pieces will make those bronzed summer legs stretch for days. Bag, Zara, P1,995. Sunglasses, Sunnies Studios, P399. 28 &260232/,7$1$35,/ Dress, Mango, P1,995. (STILLS) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BR ANDS. EARN YOUR STRIPES Bodysuit, Alice in the Eve at General Pants Co. Skirt, C/meo Collective. Earrings, Peter Lang. Bangle, Colette by Colette Hayman. Earrings, Zara, P Dress, Wallis at Zalora.com. ph, P3,449. Skirt, M And M at Zalora.com. ph, P499. ON THE DOT Need a night-time print? Polka dots can easily be paired with fun, quirky accessories. Shorts, H&M, P Headband, Mango, P Dress, Zara, P Skirt, Pull & Bear, P Bag, Mango, P Mules, SoFab! at Zalora.com. ph, P 30 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (STILLS) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BR ANDS. Sunglasses, Sunnies Studios, P399. 2 7 6 32 3 4 beach o a e s e t h t Stuff sentials in ast y es ip p holida on and sk eue. carr y aggage qu the b 5 8 (TE X T) COSMO AU. (ST YLING) HAPPY LOPEZ. (GERBER, K ARDA SHIAN) @K AIAGERBER @KOURTNE YK ARDA SHIAN. (STILLS) COURTESY OF Z ALOR A.COM.PH AND RESPECTIVE BR ANDS. (MAP) SHUT TERSTOCK. GERB ER K C PA R U YO ! S G BA GC K AIA S PI N HOP A RT LS L I R F E SEASID 1 1 Bag, Pull & Bear, P1,395. 2 Luggage, Parfois, P4,990. 3 Dress, H&M, P1,990. 4 Bag tag, Cath Kidston, P449. 5 Sunglasses, Sunnies Studios, P499. 6 Hat, H&M, P899. 7 Beach mat, Hey Sweety, P1,090. 8 Packing pouches, Travel Manila, P850. 9 Pouch, Herschel, P1,490. 10 Wedges, Charles & Keith, P2,799. 11 Bikini, I Love Koi, P2,280. 12 Shorts, Penshoppe, P799. 13 Kimono, Pink N’ Proper, P1,849. 14 Belt bag, Bershka, P895. 12 9 10 11 14 N SHI A RDA KO U R KA TNE Y 13 L A C I P O TR M DR EA Jacket and earrings, Karen Walker. Bikini, Subtitled at General Pants Co. Scarf, Frankie Peach. Necklaces, Nicole Fendel. STAYING COOL IS OVERRATED—BARE ALL AND SOAK UP THE RAYS. PHOTOGRAPHY BY EMILY ABAY THIS PAGE: Jumpsuit, Tigerlily. Swimsuit, Fella. Sandals, David Jones. Necklaces, H&M and Boohoo. Bracelet, Colette by Colette Hayman. OPPOSITE PAGE: Swimsuit, Frankie Swimwear. (TEXT) COSMO AU. (STYLING) CHARLOTTA BACKLUND. (HAIR) REMINGTON SCHULZ, PANTENE HAIR AMBASSADOR. (MAKEUP) AIMIE FIEBIG/DLM. (MODEL) EDEN/CHIC MANAGEMENT. (STYLIST’S ASSISTANT) ANA ZUPANOSKA. THIS PAGE Top, Leo & Lin. Bikini bottom, Zimmerman. Shoes, Asos. Sunglasses, Le Specs. Necklace, Nicole Fendel. OPPOSITE PAGE Kimono, H&M. Bikini, Bonds. Sunglasses, Bolon. Necklaces, H&M and Nicole Fendel. l o o P rty a P DIVE INTO THE SUMMER IN CHEEKY SUITS AND OVERSIZED SUNNIES. On Kim: Sunglasses, Mujosh, P4,990. Earrings, Aldo, P555. Cuff, Gildee Jewelry, P745. Bikini, Cesa, P1,980. On Nicole: Sunglasses, Mujosh, P3,990. Necklace, P790, and bracelets, P590, all Parfois. Maillot, Aquaholic, P2,298. On Che: Sunglasses, Mujosh, P5,990. Earrings, Aldo, P455. Bikini, I Love Koi, P1,880. BY HAPPY LOPEZ PHOTOGRAPHY BY PAOLO PINEDA SHOT ON LOCATION AT THE CIRQUE SERVICED RESIDENCES Sunglasses, Mujosh, P6,490. Necklaces, Parfois, P990 as a set. Bikini, I Love Koi, P1,880. OPPOSITE PAGE On Nicole: Sunglasses, Mujosh, P4,490. Necklace, Gildee Jewelry, P745. Maillot, Agua, P4,790. On Kim: Sunglasses, Mujosh, P5,990. Earrings, Aldo, P655. Bikini, Cesa, P2,180. On Kim: Sunglasses, Sunnies Studios, P499. Necklace, Aldo, P655. Bikini top, P2,700, and bottom, P2,700, both Agua. Bracelet, Gildee Jewelry, P695. On Che: Earrings, Aldo, P455. Maillot, Naked Sun, P2,350. Bracelets, Gildee Jewelry, P695 each. Bikini top, P2,700, and bottom, P2,700, both Agua. Bracelet, Aldo, P795. Assisted by Carie Aguila and April Lozada. Makeup by Angie Cruz and Cielo Medved. Hair styling by Angelu Dominguez. Modeling by Kim Ross, Nicole Guerrero, and Chean Kubota of Mercator Models Management. (TEXT AND STYLING) BIANCA MASCENON. (PHOTO) PAT DY. (MAKEUP) THERESA PADIN. (HAIR) FRANCIS GUINTU, REVLON PROFESSIONAL BRANDS PH. (MODEL) BIANCA UMALI, GMA ARTIST CENTER. G I R L- C R U S H -W O R T H Y G O R G E O U S I N S I D E A N D O U T We all know by now how important sun protection is, but while we’re slathering sunscreen all over our bodies, we often forget that the same UV rays that cause damage to our skin can wreak havoc on our hair, too. Prevent dryness, brittleness, and breakage by wearing a hat if you’re going to be out in the sun all day, and spraying on a UV hair shield from roots to tips pre-sun exposure. 49 Perfect Flush Cream Tint in Rosy, P395, Human Nature FORMULA: Cream Liptitude 24/7 Hydrating Lip Stain in Swaaag, P399, J.Cat Beauty Lolli Tint, P1,900, Benefit FORMULA: Cream FORMULA: Liquid FINISH: Opaque FINISH: Opaque Two Kisses Dual Tint Gel Side, P695, Banila Co. FINISH: Stained FORMULA: Liquid FINISH: Sheer Holi Pop Jelly Tint in Chilli, P395, Holika Holika Peri’s Ink Velvet in #2, P450, Peripera, Club Clio FORMULA: Gel Glam Jam Lip & Cheek Plumper Tint, P599, Snoe FORMULA: Cream FINISH: Stain FINISH: Opaque Two Kisses Dual Tint Emulsion Side, P695, Banila Co. FORMULA: Gel FINISH: Sheer FORMULA: Gel FINISH: Stain Gel Tint & Silk Gloss, P690, Pixi by Petra FORMULA: Gel FINISH: Stain A T E I N K T A T wo ver have to nder how your e n l l lip -meal (or make-ou you’ t ses So r looks mid h). colo Dear Darling Tint in OR201, P248, Etude House Lip & Cheek Stain in Dusty Rose, P795, The Body Shop FORMULA: Cream FINISH: Stain 50 &260232/,7$1$35,/ FORMULA: Liquid FINISH: Sheer (TE X T AND ST YLING) BIANCA MA SCENON. (PHOTO) LOUIE AGUINALDO. HOLY GR A I L MIDDLE RING USE IT FOR Blush USE IT FOR Under-Eye Concealer “Tap your finger from temple to cheekbone for a natural flush,” says Kryolan makeup artist Kelly Thompson. POINTER The digit is the hardest to move independently and applies the lightest pressure—so it won’t pull on your delicate eye area. USE IT FOR Lip Color This finger pad is ideal for dabbing product onto your bottom lip. For extra precision on the top lip, use your fingertip. HANDY MAKEUP HACKS THUMB USE IT FOR Eye Shadow Press each thumb pad into the pigment, then onto opposite eyelids (so the tip of your finger faces the inner corner of your eye), wiggling it to diffuse the color. Give complicated applications the finger—literally! HEEL USE IT FOR Contour and Highlighter It’s like a face-defining stencil. Apply bronzer there, and press it into cheek hollows. Repeat with highlighter above the cheeks to strobe. 52 &260232/,7$1$35,/ PINKIE USE IT FOR Inner-Eye Accents “Dip the tip into a shimmery shadow or highlighter, and roll it in one motion into innereye corners,” says Thompson. You’ll instantly look more awake! (TE X T) K ATE FOSTER. (STILLS) JEFFRE Y WESTBROOK. (ST YLING) SAR AH GUIDO-L A AKSO FOR HALLE Y RESOURCES. (HAND) STOCKSY. HOLY GRAIL WELLNESS IS A LIFESTYLE Make 2018 your most relaxing year yet with CHI Spa’s new membership packages. Use your credits to avail of their signature facials, massages, and products, and take advantage of member’s perks such as Shangri-La’s Health Club and pool access. Boys & Girls Lipstick in Cristiano, Boys & Girls Lipstick in Scarlett, P1,960 each, Tom Ford BOYS AND GIRLS ASK BIANCA I WANT TO GET MY FIRST BRAZILLIAN WAX IN TIME FOR BEACH SEASON. WILL IT BE PAINFUL? HOW CAN I PREPARE FOR IT? No lies—waxing your intimate area can be painful, but there are a few ways to make the process as comfortable as possible. Don’t do it too close to your period, pop an antiinflammatory painkiller preprocedure, and go for hot wax—it tends to be quicker and less painful than the cold variety. Strip’s new rose wax is anti-inflammatory and made specifically for sensitive skin, making it a great option for first timers. BEAUTY QUICKIES The beauty world’s biggest news broken down into bite-sized portions. Busy thinking about boys? Put all that head spinning to good use and pick up one of Tom Ford’s clutchsized lippies inspired by and named after today’s dreamiest men. As if the 50 shades from the Lips & Boys collection weren’t enough, Tom has added 50 more shades named after the girls in his life—find yours and your beau’s name, perhaps? FIX OF THE DAY The OG finishing mist gets a scented twist—coconut, rose, and lavender—so you can refresh, hydrate, and set your makeup to your heart’s (and nose’s) content. You’ll discover a new use for it every day, whether it’s keeping your brows in place, reducing eyeshadow fallout, or moistening brushes for easier application. Essential Oils, P250P1,560, vnmnaturals.com THE ESSENTIALS Visit Strip at the 5th floor of Mega Fashion Hall, SM Megamall, Mandaluyong. 54 If you want to explore the art of aromatherapy, V&M Naturals’ collection of 10 essential oils is a good place to start. Ask them about their easy recipes—their knowledgeable staff can recommend which oils to blend for specific concerns. Dry skin? Add three drops each of ylang-ylang and chamomile oil into 30ml of rosehip oil then apply topically. Prep + Prime Fix Plus, P1,250, MAC (TE X T) BIANCA MA SCENON, CHANDR A PEPINO. (PHOTOS) DOOKIE DUCAY, JEFFRE Y WESTBROOK, JON PATERSON, CHRIS ECKERT/STUDIO D, FE ATURED BR ANDS. (MAKEUP) SARI CAMPOS, MAKE UP FOR E VER. (HAIR) FR ANCIS GUINTU, RE VLON PROFESSIONAL BR ANDS PH. (SIT TINGS AND ST YLING) STEPHEN DE JESUS. (MODEL) SAM COWPER. The CHI Spa is located at EDSA Shangri-La Hotel. Membership starts at P15,000. GET READY WITH ME EASY MORNINGS Entrepreneur and content creator Rhea Bue’s morning routine is just as chill and relaxing as her laid-back, effortless feed. Follow Rhea on Instagram @iamrheabue. It’s good to have the L’Occitane Brume Perfecting Mist within reach at all times. It’s a great way to instantly refresh and hydrate my face. One of my favorite exfoliants is the St. Ives Apricot Oil Scrub—it’s really gentle on the skin and it helps control oiliness. For my lips, the Ellana Lip Scrub is my weapon of choice. I’ve never been the lotion type of girl because I hate the greasy feeling, but I use the Nuxe Multi-Purpose Dry Oil to treat dry skin on my legs and arms. It doesn’t feel greasy at all—definitely my holy grail product. I’m really into gentle products, and Glossier’s Milky Jelly Cleanser and Priming Moisturizer are two of my faves. They both glide on my skin and leave it feeling plump and moisturized. SKINCARE The Too Faced Born This Way Matte Liquid Foundation is the only foundation I can wear the whole day without breaking out or looking cakey and oily. I need my mascara to be waterproof, and Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara does the trick—it lasts all day and makes my lashes look longer. I use the Anastasia Beverly Hills Eyebrow Pencil for definition, then I add volume to my barelythere brow hairs using the Maybelline Brow Precise Fiber Volumizer Brow Mascara. MAKEUP 56 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (PHOTOS) JEFF ONG. (SIT TINGS EDITING) BIANCA MA SCENON. The Benefit Boi-ing Airbrush Concealer can cover up anything and everything! It hides all my imperfections flawlessly. I love my 3CE Glow Beam Highlighter and Cream Blush. A little goes a long way for both products. BEAUTY NOTES YOU DO YOU Up your DIY skills with a little help from these Cosmo girls and their at-home beauty secrets. DIY Manicure PART 1: CLEAN Cut Your Own Bangs 1 2 If you’re giving yourself new bangs, make sure you have a peg on hand—there are so many different styles that vary in thickness, parting, and bluntness. Start by sectioning off your hair (your bangs-to-be) using a thin comb with a pointed end for parting, then clip or tie the rest of your hair back so you won’t accidentally cut it. To keep things organized and give you more control, low-ball it and start with a thin section of hair, adding more hair as you go. 3 You don’t have to use professional shears, but make sure you’re using a sharp, pointed pair of scissors. You can cut horizontally for blunt, straight bangs, but trim the hair little by little so it doesn’t end up too short. For layered side bangs, clip that section of hair between your middle and pointer fingers, then swing it diagonally to the left or right side. Cut below the two fingers using only the point of your scissors. —Doly, 22, brand communications supervisor 58 &260232/,7$1$35,/ Soak your nails in warm water and apply cuticle cream before cleaning your nails. When they’re soft enough, you can either push the cuticles down using a cuticle pusher and stop there, or you can cut off the excess skin on the sides and cuticles using a cuticle clipper for a cleaner look. If your nails are yellow, use a three-step buffer to buff off the top layer and smoothen the nail’s surface. PART 2: POLISH To avoid bubbles, don’t paint right after you wash your hands. Water stays on your nails even after you’ve toweled off, and bubbles form because a layer of polish keeps the excess moisture from evaporating. Also, nail polish begins to dry as you apply, so stay away from fans. When working with your weak hand, hold the tip of the cap with your pointer finger, the body of the cap with your thumb and middle finger, and move it using your wrist—this gives you more control over the brush. —Nikki, 38, beauty blogger, makeup artist, and PR specialist The Right Way To Wax Melt a pan of hot wax on an incense frame with a candle underneath—it makes things easier by keeping the wax melted. Prep the area with some baby powder, which ensures that the wax only sticks to hair and not your skin. Then, use a popsicle stick to spread hot wax in the direction of your hair growth. Quickly place a waxing strip on top, and pat it down till the wax cools. Stretch the skin on one side of the strip, and in a swift motion, pull the strip off in the opposite direction of your hair growth. A FEW TIPS: ʠˇ`ÏˇáøˇÏÈˇáèÝ¯ÚáʢˇÿÏíˇÈˇíáˇÏè¬ˇá¯áʧ ʠˇUáèˇÿÏíÝˇ¾ÈˇÏÈˇˇ¬¯ÝˇèÏˇùþˇè¬ˇ¾ˇá¯ˇÏ¥ˇÿÏíÝˇÁ¦ʧˇ wÏíʘÁÁˇÏÈÁÿˇ¬øˇèÏˇÁÈˇ¾ˇèÏˇùþˇÈˇÿÏíˇÈˇáˇøÝÿè¬¯È¦ʧˇ ʠˇ+èʘáˇáèˇÈÏèˇèÏˇùþˇíÝ¯È¦ˇÿÏíÝˇÚÝ¯ÏʧˇR¯Èˇ¯áˇíáíÁÁÿˇá¬ÝÚÝˇ è¬èˇè¯ÇˇÏ¥ˇè¬ˇÇÏÈè¬ʧˇˇˇ —Naomi, 25, occupational therapist Dye Your Hair At Home 1 Get your hair in the best condition possible—the chemicals in hair color will compromise your hair. Prep using at-home hair treatments for at least a week. (INTERVIE W AND SIT TINGS EDITING) BIANCA MA SCENON. (ILLUSTR ATIONS) STUART MCKENZ IE / E YECANDY.CO.UK. (STILLS) STUDIO D/JON PATERSON, CHRIS ECKERT, JEFFRE Y WESTBROOK. 2 trash bags, wear an old t-shirt, and use gloves and a cape. 4 Take a mixing bowl and coloring brush and begin mixing your color. You don’t have to mix all of it at once—you can always mix more when you need to. Invest in a good box of hair color. Do your research, read reviews, and buy from reputable brands or sellers. Don’t buy anything super cheap; it’ll do more harm than good. Make sure to buy enough dye for your hair—longer hair would need more than one box. Section your hair using clips, then work one section at a time, using the hair color brush instead of your hands to apply the color. This helps you avoid patchiness. 3 6 Protect yourself and your surroundings from stains. Cover your chair and the floor area with 5 Comb through your hair to make sure you’ve applied the hair color evenly, then wait until the recommended process time elapses. 7 Use a sulfate-free shampoo to wash the dye completely out of your hair, then use a hydrating conditioner after. —Janiela, 19, entrepreneur Groom Your Own Brows Start by creating an outline of your ideal brow shape using a brow pencil. It’s usually best to follow the original form of your brows, but you can also create a different shape, making them straighter, thinner, or more arched. Using an eyebrow razor, shave the hair outside the outline. Shave in the direction of hair growth, then use a tweezer to remove the small hairs left behind after shaving— it’ll be much less painful, and your brows will stay groomed for longer. Using a small brow comb, brush your brow hairs upwards, then cut off the hair that goes past your outline with a pair of brow-shaping scissors. —Micah, 24, makeup and permanent makeup artist, fashion stylist, and entrepreneur &260232/,7$1$35,/ 59 BURNT ORANGE Peach’s sultrier sister, this muted hue can lend your face just the right amount of warmth. Go for a monochromatic look by blending the shade on your eyes and dabbing a bit of eye shadow over a nude lipstick. GOLDEN HOUR A little bit of sunshine, a whole lot of magic. On March 3rd, an entire nation watched as Bianca Umali turned eighteen. By no means has her journey into womanhood been easy, especially during the whirlwind of criticism over a contentious Facebook post last year. Still, she faced the elements without a stitch of makeup (or fear), armed only with the earnest belief that we ought to love what we’re born with: “My intentions were clean. When the issue came out, they were saying I was against girls who wear makeup. I wasn’t, because I myself love makeup and have my own collection. We all have our own perspectives, but I just wanted to encourage young women to be comfortable in their own skin.” She may wear diferent faces for a living—new makeup looks, new roles to portray—but there’s only one Bianca behind it all. BY BIANCA MASCENON PHOTOGRAPHY BY PAT DY INTERVIEW BY CHANDRA PEPINO OPAQUE HIGHLIGHTS At this point, we’re no longer trying to fool anyone into thinking we woke up like this. Push all subtlety aside and make the highlights on your inner corners and brow bones opaque. Blend away the harsh lines, but keep the intensity up for a striking eye look. SUN SPOTS Freckles? We’re kicking things up a notch and going for bigger beauty marks. Concentrate the spots on the bridge of your nose, fading out to your cheeks. Use different brow products in similar shades— maybe a brush pen and a pencil—to give your freckles more dimension. ’ METALLIC BLUSH Tap your blush brush into a warm blush shade and a gold toned highlighter, then swirl it all over your cheeks. The effect is a multi-dimensional, luminescent glow—you’ll be blinding people from all angles. (MAKEUP) THERESA PADIN. (HAIR) FR ANCIS GUINTU, RE VLON PROFESSIONAL BR ANDS PH. (ST YLING) BIANCA MA SCENON. (MODEL) BIANCA UMALI, GMA ARTIST CENTER. WAXED DOWN BROWS Brush your brow hairs up and out, then set them with a strong-hold brow gel. Use your fingers to smooth the brow hairs down from the arch all the way to the tail for bushy but put-together brows. EMPOWERED, ENLIGHTENED, AND BETTER THAN EVER (TEXT) DANIELLA SCOTT. (ILLUSTRATION) HITANDRUN CREATIVE STUDIO. SLEEP LIKE A BABY If sales of adult coloring books are anything to go by, we are a generation of grown-ups desperate to be kids again. And what better way to feel six years old than by having someone read you a book before bed? At London hotel 40 Winks, guests can pop on pyjamas and head to the bar for “Bedtime Story Nights.” Better still, stay home and download the Calm app—its “Sleep Stories” feature has tales narrated by the likes of Stephen Fry and Game of Thrones’ Jerome Flynn. We’re drifting off alrea...ZZZ. 67 IF THE JOY OF PAINTING IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR BOB ROSS, IT’S GOOD ENOUGH FOR US. 68 7(;7*$%<,*1$&,2%2%5266%2%5266&203$,17,1*66+877(5672&. CAN CREATIVITY MAKE YOU HAPPIER? There’s definitely more to it than coloring books for grown-ups, paint-while-you-drink nights, and your weekly dance class. t seems everyone’s a creative these days. It’s been a while since yuppies have taken a back seat to yuccies (that’s short for Young Urban Creative), and everyone is either working on a passion project of some sort, is a freelance artist/designer/ photographer/whathaveyou, or working nine-to-five (although to be honest, it’s probably a nine-to-two a.m.) at an agency doing art or writing copy. This, of course, isn’t a bad thing; if anything, it’s absolutely fantastic that we’re getting in touch with our more artistic sides, and making careers in industries that only years ago were considered inferior to fields like medicine, engineering, or banking. Being an artist these days is, well, finally a legitimate career. I &260232/,7$1$35,/ 69 “There is no choice but to be creative, because that’s what life is about,” shares Dr. Randy Dellosa, psychologist and founder of the Life Change Recovery Center. He explains, “All of us are born creative, but our conditioning impedes and hampers our creative processes. When we start going to school or church, when we start having relationships, we’re placed in a box. We’re taught to be in that box, rather than taught to really explore.” This isn’t to say, however, that there’s a Van Gogh inside each of us just waiting to be unleashed on a bare canvas. “We have our different intelligences. We have to admit that some people are really bad artists, or bad mathematicians, but despite having these innate intelligences, we can look at it as an opportunity to explore and be creative,” says Dellosa. “Let me put it this way: Even if you were in prison and there was no way out, you would be able to do something meaningful if you were creative,” says Dellosa. “And it doesn’t have to be the visual arts—because there is an art to everything. Just the fact that you are able to play with what exists is already creativity.” We all have this idea that only those who can draw, color within the lines, sing, dance, act, or write are creative, but Dellosa insists that it’s a quality that transcends the thinking of being left- or right-brained. “Even mathematicians [are creative]. They still play around with what exists. For people to come up with scientific theories and inventions, some look to their imaginations and dreams.” Creativity, then, is being able to think out of the box. ART ATTACK The strong focus on the idea that art equals creativity, however, doesn’t spring from nowhere. Multiple studies on the link between creativity and happiness more often than not utilize painting, coloring, sketching, and the like to represent the expression of creativity, versus more logical activities like jigsaw puzzles. Art therapy follows the rationale of using the more tradi- “All of us are born creative, but our conditioning impedes and hampers our creative processes.” tional arts in non-traditional ways. Dellosa, however, cautions against art therapy classes that focus more on technique than healing and selfexpression. “There are faux art therapy classes: They’ll teach you techniques, and they’ll make you think or they think that’s already art therapy,” he explains. “Art therapy can work with technique, but it’s not usually important: it’s about cathartic expression, or it allows a person to undergo self-discovery. He or she may find hidden aspects of himself or herself in the art.” Dellosa further explains that the human mind thinks in images, which makes the process of healing through something equally visual a very powerful tool for therapists to use. “Art therapy is a means to project your inner, subconscious thoughts, which are essentially images. Our memories are movies. So if you tweak the movie, you can somehow change how you feel about it.” For example, if you feel you’re caught up imagining yourself as a spiky hedgehog, and want to be more of a slinky cat, expressing the image of a cat through whichever means you chose might help you bring out those traits by creating a change in your perception. As for the benefits of undergoing art therapy? “It can promote self-awareness and self-expression. It can facilitate emotional healing. It can promote personal growth and life advancement. It brings out a person’s childlike spontaneity, their playfulness, so it gives your inner child an opportunity to express itself,” Dellosa says, adding, “Art therapy can help with depression, anxiety, even schizophrenia, multiple personality disorder, and bipolar disorder.” Whichever form art therapy might come in—“Anything that promotes feelings of expression and catharsis might be considered art therapy. Even if something were a hard science, if you could express yourself through it, it works,” says Dellosa—the idea is to express and discover one’s self, a more modern way of viewing therapy not just as a means to fix something broken, but to discover one’s self and, in the process, live a more fulfilling life. WHAT’S IN THE BOX? If this renaissance and new respect for art and creativity is anything to go by, the anxiety we’ve come to know and love so well as a generation should be nothing but a myth. If you’re in a creative field, shouldn’t you be happier than your peers stuck in the sterility of hospitals or the precision of banking? Burnout shouldn’t be a thing if your day involves Pantones and typefaces. That, apparently, is a myth. A writer or an artist for a massive conglomerate, after all, is still beholden to the demands of a boss or a client. His or her creativity is still, essentially, limited. “If a person were burnt out from their creative job, it means they might be living according to someone else’s expectations, because people don’t usually get burnt out from their own creative endeavours,” says Dellosa. “They have to be creative in the way they want outside of their job. They need the mindset of ‘In this job, even if I’m a creative, I’m a limited creative. What I can’t get from this job, I need to do outside of it.’ There needs to “Self discovery itself could lead to changes, whereas starting with wanting a certain change might limit you.” be separation, and you can’t just rely on your profession for creative fulfilment.” He also advises forms of art beyond your core competencies. For example, a writer might begin to paint, or a dancer might want to begin a bullet journal or start to sketch. “It’s good to explore [other forms of art], just to figure out if it’s right for you or not. With technical artists, their technique might impede the self discovery or therapeutic process because they might be too hung up on the technique rather than just expressing themselves,” Dellosa explains. FOR HEART’S SAKE Whether you’re a creative or not, art therapy could prove to be something worth looking into, and Dellosa recommends a few tweaks to your mindset before signing up for it. “The key to deconditioning and reprogramming the mind is to first be aware of suppressed emotions.” He also recommends setting aside our fear of how good or bad the output might be. “Remember, art therapy is more about the process. If you think you’re a terrible painter, art therapy would be good for you because you would be liberated by the pressure to make something ‘beautiful’ because in the ‘ugly’ art that you do, you might discover something about yourself. And what’s ugly art to begin with? Beautiful art is conditioning of the mind. You have to get over that.” Finally, Dellosa suggests adjusting your perception that to undergo therapy, whether art therapy or more traditional talk therapy, means something is wrong with you. “It could just be about self discovery,” he says. “Self discovery itself could lead to changes, whereas starting with wanting a certain change might limit you. The idea that you have to better yourself can be hindering. Anything that provides you with insight about yourself gives you the choice of how to act on it, if you do want to act on it. This will naturally steer you somewhere, and that’s an adventure in itself, wondering where your discovery will lead you.” &260232/,7$1$35,/ 71 WHY BEING IMPERFECT IS THE NEW PERFECT Striving for perfection is so 2017. 72 &260232/,7$1$35,/ ‘m not going to lie—I really struggled with writing this feature. I wrote three different intros but, being the perfectionist that I am, I didn’t think any of them were good enough. And quite frankly, this one probably isn’t much better, but I’ve decided I’m OK with that, because I’m embracing wabi-sabi. It’s not a side order for your sushi; it’s an ancient Japanese philosophy that embraces all things imperfect and encourages you to find delight in the simpler things— like peanut butter on sourdough instead of fancy unicorn toast. “Wabi-sabi is modest and humble. It’s well-worn jeans, weathered wood, or an unrestored antique chest,” says Leonard Koren, author of Wabi-Sabi for Artists, Designers, Poets & Philosophers. But before you dash out to your local ukay to grab some cracked plates and pre-loved clothing, it goes deeper than just how you decorate your home. I (TE X T) DANIELLE K AM. (PHOTO) SHUT TERSTOCK. THE WABI-SABI LIFE In an age when we’re all so concerned about gaining more possessions and getting ahead in life, wabi-sabi is about taking a step back and going with the flow,” says Amanda Gruhn, a Gestalt psychotherapist. Gruhn might be onto something. According to a study from the University of Kansas, women of our generation are burning out faster than men because we are striving for perfection in our careers and all other aspects of our lives. Can you blame us? With phrases like “girlboss” and everyone being encouraged to “lean in,” we’re constantly comparing ourselves to those who are slaying it in start-ups, rising up the ranks of corporate ladders, and smashing the Likes with their perfectly filtered pictures on Instagram. IMAGE PROBLEM “Now more than ever, women are under pressure to work harder and look better,” Gruhn says. “I have more and more young women coming into my practice who are getting everything from breast implants to labiaplasty at such a young age because they want to be ‘perfect,’ but it doesn’t always equal happiness. The idea of wabi-sabi is that we’re born imperfect. Your hair color, your wrinkles, they’re all reflections of your life. A large part of unhappiness comes from not accepting who we are.” She’s right! What’s so great about being perfect carbon copies of each other? Who doesn’t have a soft spot for imperfectly perfect girls like Lena Dunham or Jennifer Lawrence? They’re the kind of people you can imagine having a glass of wine (or 10) with because they openly admit they don’t have their shit together. Admitting you’re not perfect is actually incredibly endearing—and embracing it can be really fulfilling. “When we see celebrities who are willing to be a bit of a goof, it really speaks to us,” says Gruhn. “It’s actually very freeing to just accept who you are.” So how do we incorporate it into our everyday lives? “Change the motivation behind the things you do,” says Gruhn. So instead of working out because you want to a achieve a “perfect” bod like Gigi Hadid, hit the gym purely because it’s good for your health and well-being. And rather than catching up with friends because you feel like you need to appear popular and upload the perfect brunch pic to your Instagram, go because you genuinely enjoy their company (assuming you do, that is!). MY WABI-SABI SELF It sounds simple enough, so I’ve decided to sprinkle a little wabi- “Wabi-sabiis modestand humble.” sabi on my own life. Since moving back home after two years living abroad, I’ve found myself trying to play catch-up with all my friends, who, in the time I’ve been gone, have gotten engaged, been promoted, started companies, and bought houses. Rather than feel disappointed in myself about the fact that the most expensive item to my name is a leather jacket, wabi-sabi tells me to abandon my pursuit of perfection and, instead of dwelling on what I think I’m lacking, be grateful for what I do have. In the two years I was abroad, I may not have saved enough money for a house deposit, but I made some amazing new friends, snorkelled between tectonic plates in Iceland (#humblebrag), and learned a ton of new skills working there. For that, I’m grateful. Next I took a long, hard look in the mirror because wabi-sabi says we need to appreciate our natural selves more. As hard as it is not to cringe at the sight of new fine lines around my eyes, I remind myself they’re a result of all the laughing-till-I-cried pub sessions with friends. The freckles are from spending all day in the pool with my nieces and nephews, and that extra squish around my tummy is from drinking copious amounts of Prosecco in Italy. And when I think of it like that, I have nothing to be disappointed about. Oh my God, I totally just wabi-sabi-ed myself. Still not convinced? Jessica Alba is a fan. If it’s good enough for Jess, it’s good enough for me (errr, not that I’m making comparisons or anything...). &260232/,7$1$35,/ 73 IS IT REALLY WRI RITTEN TTEN IN THE STA TARRS? If you’re Gen Y, you probably swear by your Zodiac— rain, hail, or star sign. Whether the universe has our back or not, it seems we’re all searching for a little spiritual get-up-and-go... 74 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (TE X T) MEL E VANS. (PHOTOS) ISTOCK. How much of your life is planned based on what your star sign tells you? If you’re in retrograde, do you use it as an excuse? (“Sorry I yelled at you— Mercury was in retrograde.”) Do you feel hope when you think of that rose quartz in your pocket attracting love? Why do we put this much faith in “the universe”? A logical mind will tell you that relying on the universe for answers is a bunch of BS. But cut to me during any particular week and you’ll see a woman cross-referencing three different astrologers, wondering whether she needs to refer to her natal chart and cleanse her crystals during the full moon. Impatient? Deluded? Or just wanting a heads-up? You be the judge. Even though I perpetually find myself relying on some galactic map to determine my life, I’m no looney. Even my most with-it girlfriends join me in the discussion. Whether we’re worried about work, confused about our next step in life, or losing patience in the seemingly never-ending quest for love, our horoscopes, psychics, Tarot cards, and whatever-elses serve to tell us that everything is going to be okay. Because it just has to be. Right? IMAGE PROBLEM “It’s a human tendency to want to know what’s coming up at times of emotional difficulty,” says psychologist Samantha Clarke. “That’s partly linked to the way our mind is set up. We have the limbic system, which controls our fight-or-flight response, and the pre-frontal cortex, which is pretty much why we’re at the top of the food chain. But we still don’t like uncertainty. Our mind thinks that if we can’t see what’s in the distance, there might be a predator—and it needs to know what’s there so it feels safe. The physical threats have disappeared, but the psychological threat of not knowing about the future is still there. We need a little reassurance to let that part of our anxiety settle down.” Last year presented a huge raft of uncertainty in the world. Because of this, we seem to be a melting pot of lost souls searching for meaning in WTF times. Sometimes seeking a forecast of good news is nothing more than needing a sounding board, a confirmation of previously held beliefs or just, you know, some guidance. To an extent, our gender also fuels this obsession, encouraged by the “locus of control.” Clarke explains it as a two-sided pattern of thinking when it comes to our personality—internal and external—and women are believed to have a higher external locus of control. According to Clarke, those with an internal locus of control feel they have more control over what happens to them in their life: in their mind, “they make a choice that leads to an outcome,” she says. Then there are the rest of us, those with an external locus of control, who feel like we’re more powerless to control our situation regardless of what we do. Think about your workplace: you may feel you have no control over who the boss gives a promotion to— but ask a guy and he’ll (likely) feel he has all the control. The mind is a funny thing. Astrologer Jenny England believes that planets can determine our life’s path. Knowing this, we’re more inclined to sit in the passenger seat. ‘Cause it’s written in the stars, right? “When it’s done properly by a certified astrologer, your astrological chart is a blueprint of who you are: your DNA,” she says. “We can’t be anybody but who we are, and when we try to go against it, we go wrong. When you get back to your proper self, you feel happier and more content.” But away from these confirmations-of-sorts, these maps are king content creators (read: money makers). Stories I’ve found in the past month include “This Is How Old You Are Mentally, According to Your Zodiac” (“42 to 49”), “This Is What Job You Were Born To Have, According to Your Zodiac” (“to marry someone rich”), “This Is The Most Annoying Thing About You, According to Your Zodiac” (I’m a “hypocritical people-pleaser”), and “This Is The Best Date According to Your Sign” (“taking a &260232/,7$1$35,/ 75 narcissistic bunch. We long to feel as though we belong and that we each, individually, have our unique special place. Because we’re special. And armed with this, we continuously strive to find out the secrets to our future through an industry that’s worth more than P90 billion. LOSING OUR RELIGION class”). There are even star sign-themed fragrancemaking workshops, in case you want to know exactly what a Libran smells like. We’re approaching system overload. But, hey, at least I can flop down on my Libran bed, wrap myself in a Libran robe, or enjoy a Libran walking tour. DO YOU BELIEVE? We’re not only keener than ever to figure out our future whatever the forecast, we’re taking it far more seriously, with 58% of 18-to-24-yearold Americans believing that astrology is scientific. But it’s not scientific—far from it. The mere mention of horoscopes and science in the same sentence has the potential to make Bill Nye spit out his tea. It’s more to do with our psychological needs: although we know our horoscope is 76 &260232/,7$1$35,/ being read by millions of other people, we want to be able to glean a sentence from it, look off into the distance and think, “It just gets me.” Case in point: an experiment conducted in 1948 by Bertram Forer. The US psychologist told his students that they were receiving a unique outline of their character and asked them to rate its accuracy. The catch? The outlines were actually identical...yet every student rated theirs as an excellent description. Team this with an analysis of more than 22,000 Yahoo horoscopes, conducted by David McCandless in The Atlantic, which found they mostly rehashed the same old details for each sign, regardless of the fact that each Zodiac sign is meant to possess varying traits and desires. As psychoanalyst Gérard Miller explains, “There is something in each one of us that’s superstitious, that can’t be convinced by reason. This part of us means we are able to dream, to access our imagination. The problem is that it makes us vulnerable to astrology, clairvoyants, or any type of guru who claims to know something about our essential being, our needs, our desires, our future”—just something we do not. A little spirituality, wherever it may come from, allows us to live in a makebelieve world where sadness is seldom mentioned. Because the truth can hurt. But thinking that a generic roundup speaks only to us alludes to the motivation behind our search. We’re a “People have been moving away from churches and close connections with family, and instead seeking material things,” says England. “This is leaving a lot of Gen Y with a lack of meaning. They have so much choice and so much pressure to achieve, it’s paralyzing.” Humanity is a fan of patterns. Add this to a lack of meaning, and looking to the stars helps us deal with not knowing what’s ahead. Even if we read between the lines, we’re still using the message to our advantage because it helps us silence anxious feelings. As long as we take it all with a grain of salt (and a dash of reality), what’s the harm in believing that something good is ahead for us? We can believe in whatever we choose—so why not let a bunch of stars in the sky be our guiding light? I’ll be honest: they really are just a guide. Anything negative is ignored, and the good is treated as inspo. “If your patterns of behaviour are working for you, and you read your horoscope and it makes you think about what you can learn in order to move forward in your life, it’s fine,” says Clarke. That’s just the sign I need. Check us out! Keep yourself updated on all things Cosmo. FACEBOOK INSTAGRAM TWITTER YOUTUBE FACEBOOK.COM/ COSMOPOLITAN.PH @COSMOPOLITAN_ PHILIPPINES @COSMO_PH YOUTUBE.COM/ COSMOPOLITANPH (TEXT) CHANDRA PEPINO. (PHOTO) ALVARO MATAS/COSMO UK. F I N D I T, D E F I N E I T, M A K E I T A L L N I G H T L O N G LET’S GET LOUD Plenty of us are aces at feeling love...but letting it show can be a challenge. The Spice Girls prophesied 2018’s biggest romantic tragedy: not knowing how to tell people what you want, what you really, really want. Whether it’s learning to let loose during sex or channeling your romantic feelings in a healthy way, we could all use a lesson on expression. 79 80 (TEXT) CHANDRA PEPINO. (PHOTOS) (MAIN IMAGE) LOUIE AGUINALDO, (BTS) COURTESY OF BIGHIT ENTERTAINMENT, (GRANDE) COURTESY OF REPUBLIC RECORDS, (MINAJ) COURTESY OF YOUNG MONEY ENTERTAINMENT. (STYLING) STEPHEN DE JESUS. IS POP CULTURE MESSING WITH YOUR LOVE LIFE? How fandom culture could be messing with your real-life relationships. I t was wa January 2013, and the Tw Twitter community was in upr uproar—positioned at the top of th the Worldwide Trends list was an alarming three-word has hashtag. One click and you were assaulted by the sight of forearms sliced open, posted online as proof of some kind of demented blood pact. Why were teenagers in nearly every major city in the world cutting themselves? It was a bid to get their hero, Justin Bieber, to stop smoking marijuana. The hashtag #CutForBieber started out as a cruel prank by trolls, but by the time they tried to explain, blood had already been shed. This isn’t the first time celebrity obsession has driven fans to psychotic lengths—from Beatlemania in the 1960s to Kim Kardashian and Kanye West getting tackled to the ground at Paris Fashion Week in 2014, diehards will stop at nothing to bask in the presence of their idols. The thing is, fan relationships always start out innocuously. You notice the hype and want to understand it, embark on a quick Google search, and before you know it, you’re neck-deep into what’s referred to as a ‘fandom’— a dedicated group of people who devote the same kind 81 of time, money, and energy one would on an actual significant other. Fans shell out thousands on tickets, merchandise, and collaborations, camp out on the streets to be first in line for exclusive events, and manage separate social media accounts to post updates about their idols and interact with fellow fans. When the integrity of their beloved is challenged by rival fandoms, they don’t hesitate to declare war. There’s a word for this typically female-normative excitement: lisztomania. Outsiders to this culture might find this level of commitment utterly baffling, if not disturbing. After all, how could one possibly give so much to a distant public figure— someone who says they love them all the time, but never truly does? “At its most extreme, [obsession] is ruminative—it can take on a life of its own,” explains Maria Sherman, author of Truly, Madly, Deeply: Exploring the Relationship Between Fandom and Mental Health. “[One can be] ‘love-obsessional’: [to believe] that there’s a personal relationship that doesn’t really exist. There’s ‘erotomanic,’ which is where the fan believes the subject is actually in love with them. ‘Intense-personal’ is [where you’d hear things like], ‘[He’s] my soul mate.’ The last is personality-disorder level, the borderline pathological: ‘If someone gave me ten thousand pesos, I would consider spending it on a napkin used by [him].’” Susceptibility to this culture is predominant among youths, while fans from an older age bracket might view their participation as a way to feel ‘young’ and ‘alive’ again (yes, Directioners in their 40s are a thriving demographic). However, this pseudo-relationship with celebrities runs a very real risk in terms of how young people view love and modern unions. All superstars, whether they’re boy bands, actresses, or Billboard charttopping pop singers, capitalize on the identity that they project onto the public sphere. Their no-makeup selfies, supposedly ‘candid’ videos, and ‘off-thecuff’ tweets are carefully calculated to give fans the illusion of close, genuine connection. Nobody is asserting that celebrities don’t actually love and appreciate their fans—but the only type of love they can realistically give is towards a collective, never to one specific person. You might know what Charlie Puth is allergic to or what Harry Styles’ fondest childhood memories are, but in a real relationship, to know and love someone calls for much more than a militant familiarity with details. Fandom culture, at its worst, becomes problematic when the individual fails to learn how to grapple with loving flawed people. It sets an impossible standard for reallife relationships, and it’s unfair to a partner who, by virtue of their regularness, could never match up to the established persona of your not-perfect-but-practically-perfect idol. The negative implications become more apparent when one realizes that celebrity obsession is often used as a crutch by the lonely or recently heartbroken. “Belonging, while a psychological motive for all humans, is particularly apparent in fan groups,” explains Sarah Sloat of InVerse Entertainment. “[It’s a] ‘psychological construct’ that includes a feeling of involvement and identification.” When the qualities fans search for and fail to find from the men they date manifest themselves in celebrities, unhealthy projection occurs, making it even harder for a fan to cope with the highs and lows of a typical relationship. So how can one go about loving their favorite celebs without going off the deep end? For starters, you can channel obsessive feelings towards Obsession is ruminative and can take on a life of its own. 82 &260232/,7$1$35,/ productive discussions that help you understand yourself and society better...and make it a point to be critical of your own idols. “Fans want to make the things they love better, so they find something that they don’t agree with—a problematic representation or a social issue that could be highlighted—and they talk about it,” says Paul Booth, author of Playing Fans: Negotiating Fandom and Media in the Digital Age. The key is to understand that our objects of affection are more than just objects; they’re living, breathing human beings. And by coming to terms with that reality, one can move on to pursue healthy, mutually beneficial romantic relationships—no hashtags necessary. HEARTS OF GOLD A rundown of celebrities who stepped in when their fandoms needed them to. ARIANA GRANDE After the tragic Manchester shooting at her concert in May 2017, the pop star gathered artists and fans alike for One Love Manchester, a benefit performance for victims of the attack. Grande managed to raise 10 million pounds ($13,000,000) for the cause. BTS In response to the Sewol Ferry Disaster of April 2014, which killed 300 people, the boy band and their record label donated 100 million won ($93,000)—and openly defied a blacklist by the Korean government that barred popular public figures from helping out. NICKI MINAJ After the rapper offered to fly winners of a contest to see her live in the US, an outpouring of requests asking Minaj to pay for their college tuition emerged—and she delivered, granting support worth $30,000 to more than 30 lucky fans with straight As. how much we’ve always wanted this as individuals and as a couple. Their support definitely made it a hundred times easier to take the plunge. WHAT CHALLENGES DID YOU ENCOUNTER WHILE PREPARING FOR THE MOVE? C: Securing my fiancé visa was quite a long and tedious process filled with lots of uncertainty. Another challenge was making sure we’d have enough financially to survive in a new city. NYC is an expensive place to live in, so we made sure we had enough saved up to last us four to five months because we weren’t sure how soon either of us would find work. To add to our savings, Gab sold his car, we held a garage sale, and I started a side business selling handcrafted items and other digital goods. AFTER OUR CIVIL WEDDING ON DECEMBER 8 HOW WE MAKE IT WORK (INTERVIE W) CHANDR A PEPINO. (PHOTO) COURTESY OF CAMIE JUAN. CAMIE JUAN AND GAB DE LEON The lifestyle blogger talks about moving to the Big Apple with the love of her life. WHEN DID YOU REALIZE YOU WANTED TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIVES WITH ONE ANOTHER? CAMIE: It was late at night and we were in our garden, lying under the stars. I turned to look at Gab and thought, “This guy is amazing. I could spend forever with him and never get bored. Tell him you love him.” I did, and Gab said it back. Now that we’re married, we still look at each other and think, “I can’t believe I get to spend the rest of my life with this person.” HOW DID THE DECISION TO MOVE TO NYC COME ABOUT? C: We discovered that NYC was a goal we had in common and that we both wanted to achieve, so it kind of became our dream together. [But with any major life decision], the scariest part was knowing there would be really challenging times and questioning if we’d have what it takes to face them together. Our family and friends were really supportive because they all knew TELL US ABOUT A SOURCE OF CONFLICT AS YOU ADJUSTED TO YOUR NEW LIFE IN NYC. C: After Gab and I got engaged, I lived with him and his family for a few months before our big move, so we basically knew each other’s little quirks and habits and what ticks us both off. When we moved to our place in Queens, we were surprised at how much we still learned about each other! We make sure we listen and understand where the other person is coming from. When you choose to keep it in and hide the negative feelings, that’s when resentment for the other person grows, which can often lead to big fights that are avoidable if you just learn to communicate in the first place. WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR COUPLES LOOKING TO MOVE TO ANOTHER COUNTRY TOGETHER? C: Have a trial run back home. You may think you know someone, but you’ll be surprised by how much more you can learn about your partner when you have no one else to rely on to run the household but each other. See how he deals with handling money and doing chores. If you already know your partner like the back of your hand, my best advice is to just do it. It strengthens your relationship and brings you closer to one another. While it can be scary, it’s also such a rewarding experience. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 83 TO MOAN OR NOT TO MOAN? Here’s why you moan like a cat in heat even when you’re not feeling it. once dated a guy who took forever in bed. As he took his sweet time, I would be tired and aching, parched like the Sahara down there. We had been dating for a while before I told him that his marathon sessions were actually physically painful for me. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, so I moaned and muttered like I was in the throes of the greatest passion known to woman, hoping that it would get him off. Admit it: You’ve been that woman who would rather pantomime pornlevel pleasure than tell her partner “That’s not working,” or “You’ve been pounding away for the past half hour; can you please wrap it up?” I FAKE IT ‘TIL HE MAKES IT A lot of women are guilty of committing such low-key sexual subterfuge. In a study published in the Archives 84 &260232/,7$1$35,/ of Sexual Behavior in 2011, researchers from the University of Central Lancashire and the University of Leeds asked 71 sexually active heterosexual women about the “copulatory vocalizations” they make. They found that those noises were often made before and simultaneously with their partner’s orgasm. 66% reported moaning to speed up their partner’s orgasm, and 87% did so to boost his self-esteem. Trisha O’Bannon, columnist for The Big O, says, “So many women are scared to be honest about the quality of the sex they’re having. None of us want to tell our partners—some of whom we like or even love—that they’re not really doing it for us in the bedroom. So we just moan and get it over with.” Our culture has normalized the image of the woman wailing with abandon during lovemaking while the man lets out the occasional grunt. With not enough healthy public discourse on sex to inform the regular Jane, no wonder we’re turning to pop culture for tips and acting them out to please our perceived audience, i.e., our partners. “We don’t talk about sex in the right way, so obviously everyone’s first and maybe only idea of sex is what they see in porn or in movies,” O’Bannon says. “That porn is produced, polished, and targeted to heterosexual males, so it doesn’t truly reflect the different ways sex can be. People don’t realize that porn is, above all, fantasy and performance.” 7(;7&+((.,($/%$<,//8675$7,216%(7,1$0$6&(121 SPEAK, OR FOREVER HAVE BAD SEX All this fake moaning leads to the question: If you’re too eager to please your partner, who’s looking out for your own pleasure? Faking your enthusiasm doesn’t teach your partner how to please you and keeps you from the good sex you so truly deserve. “He’ll think he’s doing something right and keep doing it, not knowing that there’s something else he should be doing to get you off,” she says. “Everybody loses in the long run, especially the woman who might never have a truly enjoyable and orgasmic experience.” COME ON, FEEL THE NOISE So how can we express ourselves genuinely in bed without getting performative? Sexual chemistry is key. If the sex is good, your moans will roll out of your mouth naturally. O’Bannon advises, “Pull him in closer when he’s doing something right. Control the pressure and speed if he’s not. Move your body along with his. Be an active participant in your own pleasure.” Once he hits the spot, give yourself permission to veer off the media-dictated script. “Genuine pleasure doesn’t always sound pleasant to the ear,” O’Bannon continues. “Focusing on looking and sounding pretty and sexy takes away your ability to feel pretty and sexy.” So go scrunch up your face and scream the neighbors’ ears off—as long as that’s what feels natural to you. Whatever noise you make will be music to his—or at the very least, your—ears. NAUGHTY NOISES FOR THE GOOD GIRL Always get tongue-tied when the banging begins? Sex-positivity activist Trisha O’Bannon shares some totally doable dirty talk tips. TELL HIM WHAT WORKS. If he’s doing something right, point it out. Whispering “That feels so good” when he whips out a move will be just the thing to get you more—and more! More! More!—of the same. BE BREATHLESS. No need to howl like a wolf on a full moon to let your partner know you’re into it. Soft, breathless panting— plus points if you do it right in his ear—is a sexy alternative. SAY WHAT FEELS RIGHT. Forget about following a script—just say what feels right in the moment, whether it’s a stream of curses or those three little words. “Being sincere trumps being graphic every single time,” O’Bannon says. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 85 MODERN ROMANCE INTERNATIONAL LOVE It's not uncommon for Filipinas to find themselves in serious relationships with foreigners—but scathing misconceptions continue to exist today (stories about 'gold diggers' and catfishers abound). That's because interracial unions are a historical taboo—the country's previous notoriety for mail-order brides doesn't help matters—but it's 2018, and prejudice should be the last thing in the way of true love. Everybody's got something to say, so we break down what to pay attention to... and what to filter out. MIND... LIVING ARRANGEMENTS. A long-term union will prove challenging if you two aren't based in the same country. Is one of you planning to move to be close to each other? Will you be living together, or is a longdistance relationship in the cards? Paperwork isn't sexy, but securing the visas and documents necessary to make your relationship work will be worth it in the end. CULTURAL DIFFERENCES. Depending on where they're from, your partner's traditions and beliefs might clash with yours; this will become more apparent when you meet one another's families. Figure out if there are ways to navigate religious, political, or social differences (hopefully, they're surmountable). YOUR INTENTIONS. Love transcends race and skin color—so if you're head over heels, then by all means, live out your happily ever after. NOT 'SUCCESS' STORIES— JUST STORIES Australia to meet his family. Now, I have a permanent job in Australia, and we plan to get married in late 2019.” Three Filipinas share how they met the love of their lives. —CHIARA*, 24, ENGAGED “I met my boyfriend Tom* in college while he was an exchange student. After graduation, I flew to 86 &260232/,7$1$35,/ “While studying in California, I met Joshua*, who coincidentally was also raised in my hometown, Cebu—he was just on vacation to see his However, it's crucial to do some self-reflection the way you would if you were dating a Filipino. You want to be with them for them, not for the novelty or perks that come with dating a foreigner. DON'T MIND... PUBLIC REACTIONS. Prepare to be on the receiving end of a lot of stares when you're out in public. You might feel judged, but remember that your love story is yours and yours alone. You don't need to relatives. A year later, I returned to Cebu, and we reunited. We're lucky that we don't have to deal with long-distance. The way we met was so serendipitous that I feel like we're meant to be.” —DANIELLE*, 22, IN AN EIGHT-MONTH RELATIONSHIP “I lived in Europe for most of my 20s, but when I was explain yourself to complete strangers. COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATION. The most ubiquitous misconception about interracial relationships revolves around money. If you're secure in that respect and know in your heart that that's not what you're after, pay them no mind. If you were single, your money would be your business, so why would this be any different? 26, my family asked me to find work here. My French boyfriend, JB*, was reluctant to uproot himself, but took the leap for me anyway. He now works here as an engineer. And my relatives consider him part of the family already!” —KRYSTAL*, 29, IN A FIVE-YEAR RELATIONSHIP (TEXT AND INTERVIEWS) CHANDRA PEPINO. (PHOTO) ISTOCK. *NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED. What it's really like to date somebody with a different passport. (TEXT) JESSICA GOODMAN. (ILLUSTRATIONS) RAMI NIEMI. G E T T H A T G O A L , W I N A T L I F E HOW TO KEEP IT PROFESH IN A TMI WORLD 8 87 BEHOLD, FIVE POTENTIALLY DICEY SCENARIOS—AND HOW TO DEAL Isabel was unsure whether or not to invite her boss to her birthday party. In the end, she figured the more, the merrier! “If you’ve never mixed your friends with your boss, your birthday party is not the place to start,” says Tina Sharkey, cofounder and CEO of the e-commerce company Brandless. Typically, wedding invites are okay, but don’t ask your manager to anything that could become a rager (read: you, sloppy and swimming in booze). “Bosses don’t feel excluded if you don’t invite them—they get it!” explains Sharkey. 88 &260232/,7$1$35,/ Emoji and slang can help show your colleagues you’re a real person, not just a robotic workhorse. An occasional smiley face or LOL is fine in most offices, says workplace expert Lynn Taylor, adviser to American Express OPEN on workplace culture and author of Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant. “But don’t make them so cutesy that they distract people.” Hold back on kissy-face emojis, and definitely no eggplants. Jill and Cary have no problem discussing sexcapades even when no one wants to hear them. Unless you’re sequestered in a soundproof room, never share ultra-personal or cringe-worthy details at work. “Only speak about topics you wouldn’t mind being broadcast to the entire staff,” says Taylor. “People talk, and information spreads rapidly, especially if your industry is small.” If you just have to dish to your work wife, take your recaps outside or plan an after-hours catch-up. Lauren always goes in for the hug—but maybe she shouldn’t. Even innocent physical contact may be considered an HR violation or, worse, sexual harassment—so unless you are BFFs with a colleague, avoid initiating hugs. “The safe bet, particularly in a coed environment, is to shake hands,” says Tiffany Dufu, chief leadership officer at the career-advancement service Levo. If your boss goes in for an embrace and you’re weirded out, deflect with humor. “Say, ‘Sorry. I’m not a hugger!’ Do it with a big smile.” The way boss lady Amy talks to employees about her life is...a lot. You’re a staff member, not a therapist…and playing one at work can backfire. “When you know personal things about your boss, she may feel vulnerable in front of you and avoid you or maybe even withhold a promotion,” says Dufu. If you catch your manager in a rough moment, say, “I see you’re having a hard time. Should we reschedule this meeting?” says Sharkey. Give her the opportunity to speak to someone she has an intimate relationship with. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 89 SHE STARTED IT RHIZA PASCUA CEO and Founder, MMI MMI’s big boss has brought artists like Madonna, Coldplay and One Direction to Manila, and she’s just getting started. R hiza Pas Pascu Pascua was a law student ent based bas ba in Los Angeles, eles, when, wh w one day, an acquain acquaint acquaintance told her that the F Fili Filipino band Side A was comin com coming to LA but didn’t n’t yet ha h have a promoter. Because ause she sh was a big music ic fan an aand loved the “So Many Q Questions” and “F “Forevermore” hitmakers, she took on the job, even if she knew next to nothing about concert production. “We—myself and three good friends—didn’t even have a proper venue and ended up getting a high school auditorium in Culver City,” she says. Despite only having three weeks to prepare, Pascua says the show turned out well. A year later, South Border, another Filipino band, came to visit the States and Pascua took on the job of organizing and promoting that show, too. Eventually, she started doing it often enough that she dropped out of law 90 &260232/,7$1$35,/ school to concentrate on the business full time. “I think I made the right choice,” she says. This marked the beginning of Music Management International (MMI), a concert and events company that is now one of the largest and most successful in the Philippines. Pascua moved from bringing Filipino artists and organizing concerts in the West Coast to eventually producing live shows featuring Western artists in Manila. AN UPHILL CLIMB One of MMI’s first big shows was boy band 98 Degrees in 2000. Pascua says one of the first challenges she encountered was how to prove to artists and their management team that the Philippines was a safe and secure country, considering the exaggerated news about sporadic terror incidents happening in the country. Pascua also admits that she felt fears of being discriminated against, at least during the early years. “I thought maybe as long as I had the stomach of a man, I was able (or at least hopeful) to break the glass ceiling. Being an Asian woman—a minority in the truest sense—I learned to be relentless, persistent, and aggressive as I've stood my ground and blazed my own trail. As long as I was good in my craft, I was ready for battle, I thought.” “Fortunately for me, I never had to experience being discriminated against,” she adds. “Perhaps I was meant to have a long-lasting bond with other strong and intelligent female Asians who are well-respected in the music industry. They have inspired and mentored me since day one. They took me under their wings, introduced me to the right people, taught me to go through the proper channels and told me to keep doing what I was doing. My hard work paid off. After more than two decades of working together, we are all still good friends.” THE SOUND OF SUCCESS To understand exactly how much of an impact MMI has had on the local concert promotions business, you’ll have to look at the shows that they have done through the years. Undoubtedly, the biggest so far is pop superstar Madonna, who performed two sold-out shows in Manila in February 2016. MMI also brought in One Direction during their peak in 2015, as well as British superstars Coldplay in 2017. “We got almost 50,000 people for Coldplay’s first show here,” Pascua says proudly. Today, MMI promotes about 17 to 20 shows a year. Up next are Harry Styles on May 1, then Bruno Mars on May 3 and 4. All dates have been sold out since last year. Although Pascua is based in LA, she manages a small team here in Manila. “Our office structure is a welloiled machine,” she explains. “I finalize the deals with the artists, then our CAO does the delegation and distribution of pertinent information such as production requirements, marketing materials, payment requests, and so on to its respective departments. We all have our own territories and I’m proud to speak of the good and extremely harmonious relationship in the office.” “When people ask me what our secret is, I think it’s our teamwork,” she says. “We have a great team.” When asked how she decides which artists are worth allocating time, money and a whole lot of effort to bring to Manila, she mentions the three body parts involved in decision making: the gut for intuition, the heart for passion, and the brain for analytical thinking. “Of course I take advice from my three kids,” she says. “They’re my consultants.” 7(;73$8/-2+1&$f$3+27260$,15,$5(*,12,16(7&2857(6<2)3$6&8$·6,167$*5$067</,1*-2+1/2=$120$.(83.86,(+2+$,5$17213$3$ "Whenpeopleask mewhatour secretis,Ithink it'sour teamwork." BEHIND THE MUSIC When people talk about concerts, they only think about how much fun it is to be in the audience and watch their favorite artists perform. Hardly anyone ever considers how much work actually goes into making it all happen—negotiations, publicity, logistics, security, the production itself, and hundreds of tiny little details that all add up to what is truly a stressful business and profession. It’s a wonder then, how Pascua is able to juggle all of that plus be a doting wife and mother to her husband and kids. “Balancing family and career is a tough act to do,” she says. “From the outside, it may look like I'm able to balance, and I try my hardest. In my heart, family will always be first. There were times when I had to miss out on shows or cut my trips short because one of my kids was ill. I must say though that I have never missed a parent-teacher conference, a competition, nor a school performance.” Pascua even mentions the “three-day rule” that she developed with her family but was recently abolished. “I could only be gone for three days, maximum, or the locks on our front door would be changed,” she says. “My eldest son, then five, served as the proponent of this sacred rule. Of course, the other three ‘board members’— his two siblings and their dad—immediately agreed and I gladly complied.” She adds, “It was more difficult back then as technology was not as advanced as it is now. Overseas calls were not the usual ‘How was your day?’ type of conversation. I checked their homework, listened to them rehearse their speeches, went through the list of a hundred questions like ‘How was your test?’ ‘Did you brush your teeth?’ and ‘What did Dad feed you?’ These were normal occurrences in between meetings while in Manila.” Asked if any of her kids are inclined to join her thriving business, Pascua says she’ll let them decide. Eldest son Gabriel is a Psychology graduate from Loyola Marymount University and now works as a behavioral therapist, while 20-year-old Jacob is a communications major at California State University Northridge. Her 18-year-old daughter Isabella is currently studying Business Administration in London. “At age 10, she wrote a clause in a contract stipulating her takeover of MMI immediately after her college graduation,” Pascua says of her youngest. “I had it framed. At that young age, I really thought it was all talk until I noticed that all her future planning revolved around MMI. She may be ‘The One’ but until such time, my husband and I will always let them know of their options so they could decide what they want to pursue and whatever they choose to do, we remain supportive.” In the meantime, Pascua is busy with many people’s idea of the dream job—organizing the biggest concerts and shows in the country, rubbing elbows with the planet’s biggest stars, and making tens of thousands of people happy. She’s aware that many people would love to be in her shoes, so for those harboring dreams of becoming the next big concert promoter, she has this to say: “You have to be very passionate. I notice that a lot of people who get into the music business are music lovers. So you have to be updated when it comes to the latest and hottest artists.” TOP TO BOTTOM: PASCUA WITH CHRIS MARTIN, HARRY STYLES, AND ED SHEERAN. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 91 WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO TAKE SOUL RICH WOMAN (SRW) TO THE PHILIPPINES? to position themselves online. GL: The Philippines is fertile ground. Our mission is to move the needle of female entrepreneurship: We want to help you if you’re looking into starting a side hustle. From your side hustle, if you’re making more than your current income, we want you to go into fulltime entrepreneurship, and from full time entrepreneurship, we want you to scale up the business. We take women through a certain system so they can build their own side hustle. WHAT IS A MISTAKE MOST FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS MAKE? ON THE JOB FROM SIDE HUSTLE TO CEO Genecia Luo, former Miss Singapore and founder of Soul Rich Woman, Southeast Asia’s largest network of female entrepreneurs, explains why you need to build your brand, online and off, ASAP. 92 &260232/,7$1$35,/ GL: SRW started out of my passion for supporting women. I was an image consultant after being Miss Singapore; I was paid by the hour, and I didn’t like that, because what’s the point of entrepreneurship if you’re trading your time for money? You don’t work, you don’t get paid. That’s when I decided to go online, and that’s the goal of SRW— to help women take their businesses online. A lot of people are stuck in traditional businesses and don’t know how WHAT IS YOUR CHALLENGE WITH FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS? GL: A lot of women in Asia are putting themselves last. The fire in their bellies is hidden, and we want to be the catalysts that get them out there, making things happen for themselves. "I wantedtosolve theproblemsof mentoring, support,and networking." Soul Rich Woman offers free memberships. To join, or for more information, visit soulrichwoman.com. (INTERVIE W) GABY IGNACIO. (PHOTO) COURTESY OF SOUL RICH WOMAN. WHY DID YOU CREATE SOUL RICH WOMAN? GL: It’s not their fault, but most don’t know how to create a cohesive message. They don’t know how to put their voice and brand online. There are millions of accounts and pages online; how do you stand out? That is what we want women to learn: to gain clarity in their message. We don’t want women to hard-sell their products. We want them to utilize technology and stretch their influence. A lot of business owners are just selling products. You need to work on branding, because most people buy brands. A lot of people that take their business online don’t think that branding is important. S T R O N G I S T H E N E W S E X Y GET A LIFT (TEXT) CHANDRA PEPINO. (PHOTO) LOUISA PARRY. (FOOD STYLIST) LAURIE PERRY. Every single day, we’re inundated with health advice, whether it’s getting eight hours of sleep, drinking eight glasses of water, or your well-meaning tita saying you could stand to lose eight pounds (FYI: it’s time to stop taking this lying down). It can be tough to keep your spirits up amidst the noise—so remember that there’s only one voice you need to listen to: your body’s. This month (World Health Day is on April 7!), learn to stay in tune with its needs, banish body-shaming, and nip health crises in the bud before they get any worse. 93 BODY LOVE LAST JANUARY, MY MOM’S SIDE OF THE FAMILY HAD A BUFFET DINNER, courtesy of a tita who was visiting from Canada. It was going to be my first cheat meal since cutting out carbs and sugar. Four weeks into my diet, I had lost 14 pounds, and I was excited for my relatives to see a slimmer me. There were high fives and compliments, but one uncle wouldn’t stop teasing me about what I was eating. Each time he passed by my table, he’d look at my plate and say, “Naku, sushi? Wala na ’yung 14 pounds na nalose mo!” My lolo, who was sitting beside me, declared, “Wala namang pinagbago! You should lose at least 30.” He also kept talking about what I should and shouldn’t eat. Unfazed, I told my brother, “Nothing can get me down tonight.” The next day, the ceaseless ribbing was all I could think about. I couldn’t stop crying. DON’T SUFFER IN SILENCE I’ll bet my left kidney that my family reunions aren’t so different from yours, in that the titas, titos, lolas, and lolos greet us with comments about our love lives (and lack thereof) or our weight (and abundance or lack thereof). Being told by relatives that you’re either 94 &260232/,7$1$35,/ 7( ; 70,&$+68/,73+2726*,5/6&2857(6<2)+%2/ $'<%,5'&2857(6<2)81,9(56$/3,&785(6 WHEN YOUR FAM BODY SHAMES YOU How to ask family and friends for less shade, more support. THAT JOKE WASN’T FUNNY, TITA “napabayaan sa kusina” or “mukhang kalansay,” and all the snarky comments in between, isn’t just a Pinoy thing. Look up “body shaming by family” online, and you’ll find that it happens around the world. There’s a variety of reasons behind your loved ones’ insensitive words, which can range from good-humored teasing to explicit fat/thin shaming, but it’s never fun to be on the receiving end. Here are some ways you can handle a body shaming situation: Speak up. The kind of conversation you can have with the offending relative depends on your personal relationship with them. Perhaps you can shut them down with a witty comeback or bluntly tell them they’re being hurtful. (Don’t be unnecessarily cruel—this isn’t about starting a fight.) In other cases, you can sit them down for an honest chat. Use the “When you say x, it makes me feel x” approach, rather than accusing them of being judgmental or unkind. When the other person is dear to you, it’s especially important to express your feelings before resentment and hurt destroy your relationship. Plan ahead. Say the guilty party is a lola you only see at the big family reunion at Christmastime. Surely you’ll survive a yearly encounter! Remember, you don’t have to talk to her the entire time. Stick with your siblings or cousins, watch funny animal videos on your phone, or text a friend. Think of things you can do to keep your spirits up, even when Lola keeps pinching your “chubby” cheeks. Change the topic. It’s possible that relatives aren’t being snarky about your weight on purpose— they just don’t know what else to say to you. Steer the conversation and give them something else to talk about. Try, “Let me tell you a more interesting development in my life— my boss said I’m on track to get promoted this year!” Call a time-out. Some encounters with family and friends are par- Express your feelings before resentment and hurt destroy your relationship. ticularly distressing, and you’ll want some space afterwards. That’s absolutely fine. Skip a few family gatherings if you need to, and take time to center yourself and feel better. Engage in self-care (e.g., a mani-pedi, some yoga), and decide that biting comments from your loved ones will not diminish your happiness. The best thing you can do is focus on your relationship with yourself. Self-love can be an arduous journey in itself, but it’s a life-changing one. Fill your own love tank, and you won’t need anyone’s thumbs-up. Know your own worth, and no one else will have to spell it out for you. If you react to your body shaming relatives, you might hear a new set of comments, including, “Ang sensitive mo naman masyado,” “Huwag mo na lang pansinin,” or “Ganoon lang talaga ’yun.” Um, no. Just because something was said in jest doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting or cause harm. It’s hard enough trying to genuinely love our bodies and be wholly comfortable in our own skin without somebody—anybody—doing some backseat driving. But many people don’t get that, so we have to educate them. Best-case scenario? It could go the way it did with my mother. After she lost 30 pounds a couple years ago, she prodded me to start my own weight loss journey. She kept saying, “If I did it at my age, so can you.” I knew she meant well, but hearing it over and over made me feel bad, so I talked to her. I said, “When you say that, it makes me feel like I’m not beautiful or I’m not enough, just the way I am.” My mom immediately stopped pestering me. See, that’s the great thing about family and friends: Unlike social media trolls whose sole purpose is to bring you down, these people genuinely love you and want you to succeed, even if they sometimes have silly ways of showing it. Tell them how to support you, and hopefully, they’ll be happy to. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 95 THE HABIT EXPERT “Like all fixations, nail biting develops out of repetition and reward. If you bite your nails one day when you’re feeling anxious, you may feel slight pain, which is distracting. That’s the reward,” explains Wendy Wood, professor of psychology at the University of Southern California. “The next time you feel anxious, you do the same thing—until it becomes routine. Try substituting biting with another action, such as chewing gum every time you feel the urge.” HEALTH BUZZ BACK PAIN IN MY 20S: WHAT’S THE DEAL? This isn’t a lola problem—back pain is more common among young adults than you think. Here are three quick fixes. THE PROBLEM: Muscle strain. THE FIX: Ice, ice, baby. According to Hallie Levine Sklar of Health.com, heat will only make the pain worse—so keep an ice pack on the area for 15 minutes. THE PROBLEM: Herniated disks. THE FIX: The disks in your spine degenerate over the years, so OTC or prescription anti-inflammatory meds and physical therapy are your best bet, advises Sklar. THE PROBLEM: Everyday wear and tear. THE FIX: Symptoms of spinal osteoarthritis can begin to show in your 20s. Start incorporating back and core-strengthening and flexibility workouts into your routine now. 96 &260232/,7$1$35,/ HOW DO I STOP BITING MY NAILS? Three experts weigh in on your childhood (dis)comfort zone. THE MD “Learn the consequences of your behavior: Chronic nail biting can lead to numerous problems, including infections, pain, and disfigurement,” advises Chris G. Adigun, MD, dermatologist and nail specialist in North Carolina. “Although not the coolest option, covering your fingertips with medical tape for two weeks will help you completely break the habit.” MY TOOTH IS KILLING ME! WHAT DO I DO? 7RRWKLVVXHVJHWPRUH H[SHQVLYHWKHORQJHU\RX OHDYHWKHPXQWUHDWHGVR UXVKWR\RXUGHQWLVW$6$3 TOOTH DECAY. When cavities form on the outer surface or enamel of your tooth, temperature and touch sensitivity can occur, according to Claudia Hoffman, DDS. SOLUTION: A root canal or an extraction. A CRACKED OR IMPACTED TOOTH. THE LIFE COACH ( 7 ( ; 7 & $ , 7 / , 1& $ 5 6 2 1 & + $ 1 ' 5 $3 ( 3 , 1 2 3 + 2 7 2 6 , 6 7 2 & . ( 0 2 - , 6 ( 0 2 - , 3 ( ' , $ ´+HUH·VVRPHWKLQJHIIHFWLYH\RX FDQWU\DWKRPH5HSHDWSRVLWLYHDIILUPDWLRQVHJ¶,FDQELWHP\QDLOVLI, ZDQWWREXW,·PFKRRVLQJQRWWR·7KLV ZLOOLQVWDQWO\JLYH\RXPRUHSRZHURYHU WKHVLWXDWLRQ7HOOLQJ\RXUVHOI¶'RQ·W GRWKDW·RQO\PDNHV\RXZDQWWRGRLW PRUHµZDUQV$OH[DQGUD-DQHOOL OLIHFRDFKLQ1HZ<RUN&LW\ Wisdom teeth usually come in impacted, causing crowding among your existing teeth. The result? Tender or bleeding gums, jaw pain, and migraines, says the Mayo Clinic. SOLUTION: You’ll need dental surgery to have your wisdom teeth removed. SENSITIVE TEETH. According to the Academy of General Dentistry, teeth become sensitive when dentin, or the inside of your tooth where the nerve endings are, loses its protective enamel covering. SOLUTION: Switch to a toothpaste formulated for sensitive teeth, and brush less aggressively. HOW THE HECK DO I DEAL WITH HYPERACIDITY? 'RHV\RXUVWRPDFKIHHOOLNHLW·VKRXVLQJWKHWKFLUFOHRI KHOO"1L[WKH0'DQGWU\WKHVHKRPHUHPHGLHV GINGER APPLE CIDER VINEGAR COCONUT WATER According to Dr. Manoj Ahuja of Fortis Hospital, New Delhi, ginger has excellent anti-inflammatory properties. Either chew it fresh, or steep it in a cup of boiling water. A low supply of stomach acid is often to blame for hyperacidity issues—this ingredient will stabilize your stomach again. Mix it in a cup of water, or take one tablespoon and ‘chase’ it with a glass of water, says NDTV Food. According to Dr. Ahuja, drinking coconut water causes your body’s pH acidic level to turn alkaline and helps the production of healthy mucus that protects the stomach from further inflammation. Chug, chug, chug. &260232/,7$1 $35,/ 97 NIÇOISE SALAD WITH SEARED FRESH TUNA LOIN, P480 HEALTHY BITES DOWN TO EARTH Load up on organic local produce that nourishes both body and soul. Sagana is at G/F Net One Center, 3rd Avenue cor 26th Street, Bonifacio Global City. 98 &260232/,7$1$35,/ BAKED INDIVIDUAL PUMPKIN SAVOYARDSTYLE, P310 PALAWAN HONEY AND GRATED COCONUT ICE CREAM WITH DARK CHOCOLATE SAUCE AND CHANTILLY CREAM, P210 HOMEMADE GOOSE FOIE GRAS TERRINE WITH TOASTED BRIOCHE & GINGERED MANGO CHUTNEY, P1,290 BRAISED NATIVE BLACK CHICKEN COQ-AU-VIN WITH SHOESTRING POTATOES, P760 ( T E X T ) C H A N D R A P E P I N O . ( P H O T O ) PAT R I C K M A R T I R E S . ( S T Y L I N G ) S T E P H E N D E J E S U S . “Sagana” means abundance—and Chef Marc Aubry’s newest concept, Sagana Epicerie and Bistro, pays homage to the diversity of Philippine crops and ingredients by fusing these flavors into French dishes. The French believe that terroir, or “what the salt is made of,” affects the quality of produce and nutrients we receive from them, affirming that sustainable eating is the best choice for the earth and for your body. Their dishes are an indulgent but sensible treat for the healthconscious looking for something more sophisticated than a salad. A must-try? The Baked Ratatouille with Sautéed Minced Lamb, Parmesan, and Organic Brown Rice Pilaf (P860) will keep you full without the guilt. LECHE FLAN CARAMEL CHEESE CAKE, P260 (TEXT) DYAN ZARZUELA. (ILLUSTRATION) OLIVER BURSTON. COSMO GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN SUMMER IN THE CITY Can’t get away for—or can’t stand the thought of—some sun, sand, and sea? You can still have a blast this scorching season within the confines of the city or even your own home (with your precious AC). Round up the gang and go on a food crawl around the metro. Fill your home with the best of the tropics. Throw a fuss-free house party, pool optional. The city is bursting at the seams with possibilities—all you have to do is take the plunge. 99 PLANS THIS WEEKEND? These sweet and salty snacks are perfect for your summer shindig. You’ll be done in a snap, so you can spend more time partying than prepping. AN ICE-COLD BOTTLE OF VODKA MULE DEFINITELY FLOATS OUR BOAT. Smirnoff Vodka Mule, P32, available in grocery stores. 100 (TEXT AND MEAL PREP) MACY ALCARAZ. (PHOTOS) PATRICK MARTIRES, COURTESY OF THE CIRQUE. (STYLING) MARTINA BAUTISTA. (SITTINGS) DYAN ZARZUELA. POOL PARTY PAIRINGS PARTY TRUFFLES SIMPLY MARGHERITA This flatlay-friendly snack is super easy to make. Spread a bit of cream cheese on a round cracker. Slice a cherry tomato in half and place on top of the cream cheese. Finish off with a basil leaf and you’re done. Arrange on a white platter to bring out the colors. They’re ready for your guests’ Instagram shots! These colorful bonbons will make it seem like you slaved all day in the kitchen, but you can actually make them in minutes. Crush a pack of chocolate cookies in a blender. Add 1/3 cup of cream cheese and mix until combined. Form into balls and set aside in the fridge (or the freezer if you’re serving them soon). Melt 4 ounces of white chocolate in the microwave. Heat in 30-second increments and stir after every round until completely melted. Dip the chilled truffles into the chocolate and coat in pastelcolored vermicelli or sprinkles. Make these ahead of time and take them out of the fridge right before serving. COLOR STORY One way to set the mood of your party is by sticking to a color palette. Going for a nostalgic ‘80s theme? Bring out the neons and bright colors. For this fete, we went for an Americana-inspired palette—red, white, and blue plus a whole lotta spirit! Want to take your pool party to the next level? Round up the gang for a staycation at The Cirque Serviced Residences, and take a dip in their resortstyle pools. Introductory rates per night: P4,800 (one-bedroom flat), P5,800 (one-bedroom loft), and P7,000 (twobedroom unit). The Cirque is located at Circulo Verde, #70 Calle Industria, Brgy. Bagumbayan, Quezon City. Log on to thecirque.com. ph for reservations. &260232/,7$1$35,/ 101 FOOD PORN EATS MORE FUN IN MANILA What Metro Manila lacks in postcard-perfect, summermust beaches, it more than makes up for in exciting, gastronomic, and, yes, IG-worthy restaurants. The ideal neighborhood coffee shop serves top-notch brews, complements its surroundings, and encourages contemplation and conversations. Caferista ticks off all these boxes and then some. Sandwiched between an outdoor gear store and a surf-moto shop-slash-co-working space in Kapitolyo, Caferista is where the likeminded community comes together for a mean cup of coffee. No complicated concoctions, just classic drinks done right, using the Yardstick Caferista Blend from the Yardstick Coffee Company. Our recos: the Flat White (P150) and Cortado (P150). The interiors are refreshingly bare save for a few surfboards, bikes, and potted plants available for adoption. “There’s so much going on around us that we wanted the cafe to be a breath of fresh air. I’d like to think our coffee is not the focus but rather the perfect pairing to the ideas you bring with you,” says restaurateur Red Espiritu. “We’re pretty stoked with what we’ve done so far, and our goal at the moment is to be consistent with the quality of our coffee.” This summer, watch for their new online store, which will make their blends more accessible to more coffee lovers. #11 Brixton St., Brgy. Kapitolyo, Pasig 102 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (TEXT) DYAN ZARZUELA. (PHOTOS) (CAFERISTA) ERWIN CANLAS, (DISTRICT 8 AND MALINGAP CENTRAL FOOD HALL) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE RESTAURANTS. CAFERISTA DISTRICT 8 Everything about District 8 feels massive, from the generous portions, to the 180-seating capacity, to the eight partners behind the gastropub, namely celebrities Daniel Padilla and Vice Ganda, pro athletes James Yap, Marc Pingris, and Paul Artadi, Chef Kel Zaguirre of Locavore, former San Juan Vice Mayor Francis Zamora, and entrepreneur Charlton Yu. Despite the magnitude, however, there’s a cozy, neighborly vibe to the gastropub, whose interiors are inspired by NYC’s Meatpacking District. The menu is a mix of creative dishes made to complement your choice from the extensive drinks list. Choose a sweet cocktail—there are eight signature cocktails inspired by the eight partners—to go with the Pork and Tuna Tiradito (P490), which combines the Peruvian raw fish dish with our grilled pork belly and ears pulutan. Or, pair the Chorizo and Brie Flat Bread (P400), crunchy brick oven squid ink pizza, with your choice of beer. Finish off with the Cerveza Negra Chocolate Cake (P280), a rich, eight-layer cake with just a hint of the dark lager. In between bites, spot the street art-inspired murals by Peter Apuyan, as well as the celebrities, pro athletes, and personalities from the all-star circle of the partners who regularly dine here. 2/F G-Strip, Greenhills Shopping Center, San Juan MALINGAP CENTRAL FOOD HALL What’s striking about Malingap Central Food Hall is its personality—quirky, cohesive, singular in every sense of the word. A remarkable feat since food halls are, by their very nature, a mishmash of different cuisines and brands. With Chef Edward Bugia’s careful curation, Malingap Central has rounded up 13 (going on 15) brands that complement each other, including Sweet X Go by Sweet Ecstasy, Honey Butter Fried Chicken from the founders of Rub Ribs BBQ, Nice To Meat You by Chef Him Uy De Baron and JJ Yulo, Comisario Quixote which traces its roots to Dulcinea, and newcomers Hapitori and Taza Platito Desserts. On your first visit, make a beeline for Honey Butter Fried Chicken’s banner product (sets start at P165), Hapitori’s Butabara (P45/stick), Sweet X Go’s Cheeseburger (P140), Taza’s Lemon Olive Oil Cake (P130), and Comisario Quixote’s Churros con Chocolate (P120), which uses Dulcinea’s original 1963 recipe. Enhancing your dining experience are the rainbowcolored interiors, cheeky reminders to CLAYGOC (clean as you go, cutie), and perhaps most important of all, allday air-conditioning and 14 guaranteed parking slots. This month, make sure to check out the Malufete Arts & Music Festival, a punny event inspired by Fete de la Musique and co-hosted by Malingap Central. #40 Malingap St., Teachers Village, Quezon City &260232/,7$1$35,/ 103 AT YOUR PLACE Set of 4 plates, P1,550, Crate & Barrel TROPIC LIKE IT’S HOT Transform your space into a tropical getaway with a few quick touches. Woven tote, P5,100, Pottery Barn Palm jungle print, P10,260, Pottery Barn Faux succulent plant, P1,550, Crate & Barrel Glass hanging pot, P1,550, Crate & Barrel Appetizer plates, P1,550, Crate & Barrel Kate Spade table lamp, P28,875, Pottery Barn Scented candle in glass jar, P930, H&M Home 104 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (TEXT AND STYLING) STEPHEN DE JESUS. (PHOTOS) (MAIN IMAGE) ISTOCK, (PRODUCTS) COURTESY OF RESPECTIVE BRANDS. Counter stool, P22,170, Pottery Barn SHOPPING DIRECTORY BEAUTY Avène Greenbelt 5 Banila Co. 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Summer is in full swing, and it’s time to let the sunshine in. With the sun comes Vitamin D (and we mean the real vitamin, y’all), as well as some naturally occurring serotonin. Whether you’re an angsty Aries or a chill as hell Scorpio, the time feels ripe to get productive. Make something new out of this feeling, ya feel us? ARIES 0 3 . 2 1 – 0 4 .1 9 This month, you’re a nature girl, Miss Ram. You can get so tied to the city’s routines that you sort of lose yourself. And not in an Eminem way; in, like, a Nietzschean alienation way. Find your inspiration in the natural world. This doesn’t mean taking a trip to the mountains (though it could). It could be in a desk plant, or an encyclopedia on mammalian anatomy. It’s in these quiet, small things you’d typically refuse that you’ll find your next step. ARIES GAL Elle Fanning 04.09.98 (TEXT) APA AGBAYANI, JESSIE ROASA. (ILLUSTRATION) CARA PHELAN. TAURUS GEMINI CANCER LEO 04.20–05.20 0 5 . 2 1– 0 6 . 2 0 0 6 . 2 1– 0 7. 2 2 0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2 April will bring you the right mystery for your creative mind to crack. Someone call a Biblical scholar, because we’ve got a Good Samaritan in the house! Your pitch-perfect problemsolving could save a life. The karmic reward comes eventually, but we hope you see the value, too, in the way you can teach someone to fish (instead of giving them a fish? We don’t know where we’re going with this aphorism). Beware, Gemini. Typically you’re a mystery, because you’re constantly in contradiction, and that confuses people. This month, things will be purposely hidden from you, whether by people around you, or by the universe. Your inquisitive soul knows how to seek out answers, though, and we know you’ll be able to turn the tables and find what you need if you use your wiles to investigate this willful deception. Seek solace in the nighttime. Your skin’s cell turnover is naturally faster at night, but your brain will be flying at warp speed. Listen to the sounds of nighttime birds, or the silence of a home where everyone else is sleeping. People fear the witching hour because of what they might see, but we need you to stay awake long enough to face the mirror and seek out truths, even as they frighten you. Write down what you see. You’ve been a kind lion of late, Nala. This is the month that comes back to you. It’s a time to collaborate with others, to create with trusted souls and uncompetitive egos in a room. You’re known to lead the pack, but consider letting someone you trust play alpha. See what new roles you can play within this new team dynamic. You’ll see how relaxing it can be to step out of the spotlight, and learn new things about yourself out of the limelight. VIRGO LIBRA SCORPIO SAGITTARIUS 0 8 . 2 3 – 0 9. 2 2 0 9. 2 3 –10 . 2 2 10 . 2 3 –11. 2 1 11. 2 2 –12 . 2 1 Sip that tea, Tita Virgie. And we don’t mean gossip; we mean some nice genmaicha to clear the mind and body. Your inspiration shall rise from your bodily wellness this month. If you take care of your body, your mind can soar even further. Seek quiet spaces, healthy eats and hydration, and the rest will follow from there. While you’re at it, try some meditation as well. See what new habits you can take on in your life moving forward. Libra, you fall in love every day, but this month, let that love inspire you to create. Cut to the feeling and make good use of it. Write a poem, sing a song, take photographs of your beloved. Revisit the richness of past love and see what’s there to salvage. Some of the best things we know in the world were created out of love, or even just desire. You of all people know how to channel emotion into thought and make it feel new every time. This month is less for making than for planning out the year ahead. What happens this month will have repercussions for the rest of the year, so be wary of events this month, for it could become the precedent for present danger (say that five times real fast). We know you always look far ahead of you, but this could be the turning point of your year. Plan the rest of the future accordingly and the inspiration for new things may make its way into your life as you go along. Hey, hey, Miss Fire. Calm down. You’ll find yourself looking for insane new adventures and wanting to blaze a path on your own. This isn’t the best idea this month. You may feel as if you’re always right (and you often are), but April is a time to listen to others. Watch your manners, because you can be a rude girl when you don’t watch yourself. You’ll find that there’s wisdom in other people (shocker!) and new ways of seeing the world. CAPRICORN AQUARIUS PISCES 12 . 2 2 – 0 1.19 0 1. 2 0 – 0 2 .18 0 2 .19 - 0 3 . 2 0 In the face of trouble, people often say, “Tawa na lang.” You’re the least likely person to act this way, but there is wisdom to be found in finding humor in the madness. Don’t worry, you can solve the problems (we know you want to, badly). This new lightness will not only be helpful, but also essential as you work through a ton of conflict this month. Don’t feel like Boo Boo the Fool, because you’ll be the comedy queen who can diffuse any difficult situation. Immerse yourself in social networks this month. Read that tita’s long Facebook status about her bad experience at an upscale restaurant. Seek out the best Instagram pictures and the funniest tweets. This is a month for seeking inspiration in connections and the stories of others. You might find something to learn hearing what other people go through, who they go around with, and how they see the world. It could change your life for the better. This month will be as easy-peasy as a swim downstream, Miss Fish. Everything looks like it’s going your way, so immerse yourself in this ease. We go through so much having to complain and work through inconvenience that we miss out on pleasant, quiet details. This month, you will see with so much clarity, it might scare you. But take this while you can, because you will find so much wonder and wisdom in the world around you. ARIES GUY Chance the Rapper 04.16.93 Your man has larger-than-life plans. Keep him grounded in case the time comes for him to scale back to find real success. GOOD VIBES TO GO MY SECRET TO BEING HAPPY “LET’S REVERSE THE IDEA THAT SPEAKING CEBUANO IS BADUY.” “A lot of Cebuano speakers still aren’t used to hearing their own language in music and in art, so it’s weird for them to hear Cebuano in formal settings. In grade school, we were told to pay one peso every time we didn’t speak in English. We barely got to use our mother tongue, except when we were playing or talking in whispers. Isn’t that ironic? It teaches kids to prefer something other than one’s own. These are the little things that contribute to the larger identity crisis we perpetually have. So you look at shows, you look at entertainment, and you see all these fair-skinned people. Kids like me grew up not having anybody to look up to. And I was searching for that message telling me I belong too, and I didn’t find it. In the industry, there are a lot of people who say, ‘Love yourself,’ and they enjoy the benefits of understanding that message, [but it doesn’t come through] to the audience. Now that I’m a part of this industry, I’m going to repeat that message to myself and to everybody else.” 108 &260232/,7$1$35,/ (TEXT) CHANDRA PEPINO. (PHOTO) ERWIN CANLAS. (MAKEUP) JANINA DIZON. (HAIR) DAVE GRONA OF REVLON PROFESSIONAL BRANDS PH. (STYLING) JL CRESPO. (STYLING ASSISTANT) VIKHA VARGAS. (OUTFIT) LOUKHA CLOTHING. (SITTINGS) DYAN ZARZUELA. Chai Fonacier, award-winning breakout star of Respeto, Pauwi Na, and Patay Na Si Hesus, discusses the challenges of Cebuana representation in showbiz.